Have you ever been cheated on?
What did you do to start the healing process?
The main thing that I had to do the begin the healing process is remind myself that it WAS NOT my fault that this person is an idiot. However, I remind myself of all of my great qualities and then start to "date " myself. When I say that, I simply mean to invest more time in myself and the things that matter to me most and/or enjoy things that I couldn't enjoy as much because I was entertaining a jerk unaware. When I started enjoying life as a single person, I met an amazing man. My life has never been the same.
Thankfully, my healing process was relatively fast for the most part -- the emotions had fizzled and pretty much died already, and I'd suspected for quite a while before I knew. I divorced him and went back to my hometown, where I'd been wanting to go for years. I started being able to just live for me and my son, something I hadn't had in a VERY long time. I took long walks, I ate good food, I lost a ton of weight, and spent time with people whose company I enjoyed. I stopped holding back my strong personality, and so found someone who fell in love with it instead of trying to discourage it. I still have stabs of insecurity, but they are getting less and less as I have learned to enjoy who I am...and the occasional person who sees the other woman and says, "He traded you in for THAT?!?!" kind of helps boost the ego a bit too .
I guess the biggest thing is to just change focus. What really helped me was to sit down and assess everything I wish I'd done or want to do in my life, and then start thinking about it as if there's nothing holding me back from them. The most important thing is not to dwell on the past, make the present what you want it to be, and make the future something to really look forward to.
The way people is, is the way he/she is. I accept the fact that they are doing "the best" they can with the resources they have.
To heal myself, I have to let it go (psst... I don't have to like them after that, just forgive them).
Yes, once I was, back during my first year in college. My highschool boyfriend and I tried to maintain a relationship despite college, and when we went back home for winter break, he told me that he "had another girlfriend". I was heart broken for a long time, but I got over it eventually and let go of my feelings for him, and we are friends again.
Oh god yes. unfortunately I have also cheated. What goes around comes around. Sucks when it happens sucks worse then when your caught. To start healing I recommend meditating for a few hours if you can't or don't want to mediate just try your hardest not to think about it. If it won't leave your brain go do something that takes a crazy amount of mental capacity.
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