If a woman maintains her appearance well, should she also expect her partner to do the same?
If a woman demands a lot from herself in her appearance, should she also demand just as much from her partner? or should she just except her partner for who they are and not try to change them?
I don't think a woman (or man) has the right to demand that their partner invest precisely the same amount of effort into their appearance as they do; people are different, and you cannot expect someone to adopt a new set of priorities simply because they are the priorities you yourself hold.
However, I think there comes a point when displaying a lack of concern about your appearance indicates a lack of respect and concern for your partner. If you are in a long term, committed, monogamous relationship, one of the things your commitment implies is your intention to provide for the sexual needs of your partner. You should not deprive your partner of the ability to have a sexual relationship with a mate he or she finds attractive.
Using weight gain as an example - gaining a few pounds as you age is natural. Gaining a few more than your spouse can be attributed to acceptable differences in temperament between two people. But if one partner stays trim and the other lets themselves go and becomes massively obese, then I think the fit partner has a right to complain. Wanting to be attracted to your partner does not make you shallow, it makes you human.
Did the woman agree to accept the man as he is, for what he is.....
Or did she place, 'restrictions"?
by Veronica~ 5 years ago
Would you judge a woman by her appearanceWomen shouldn't be judged by their appearance they should be judged on their love. My question is based on what you feel about women in your own words.
by RichusFridum 5 years ago
I meet a lot of women who consider this insulting or at least an outdated way of thinking but why is it so wrong?
by Holle Abee 5 years ago
Okay, say you have to marry one of these women/men:A is SUPER attractive, but he/she treats you like crap. Runs around on you, lies constantly, is lazy, has no loyalty, is mean, and is generally just a bad person.B isn't physically attractive. He/she isn't actually ugly but is "plain."...
by Peeples 2 years ago
Is it fair to expect change from someone in marriage?We all know we aren't suppose to change people, but is it wrong to expect them to evolve into the relationship as much as you do? Everyone changes a little when they marry(or live together) simply because you are combining 2 personalities in one...
by Audrey Selig 6 years ago
If you are insecure is it unrealistic to expect your partner to boost your ego?Some very successful people never get over feelings of insecurity for no explainable reason. Many famous actors and musicians and others eventually turn to drugs and alcohol to mask their insecurity.
by Vishaaa 4 years ago
Is it possible to have a relationship without any expectation?
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