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Is it true that, "love shouldn't be this difficult" if it is in fact love?

  1. K9keystrokes profile image93
    K9keystrokesposted 6 years ago

    Is it true that, "love shouldn't be this difficult" if it is in fact love?

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    Toyshika Eppsposted 6 years ago

    I've come to realize that love can be everything from fun, challenging, eventful, planned and unplanned. We will always have "good" days and "bad" days. Bad days meaning nothing physical or verbal from either person but expressing yourself and hurting someone's feelings, only because they care so much. What we see on the television and movies isn't the type of love we all get. To me personally, love is amazing when two people are willing to put in the effort, understand that neither person is "perfect" and each person finds a way to find the perfection in that individual that compliments them.

    ...One Love...

  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    I believe when two people "naturally agree" on the (major things) in life as well as have the (same goals for the relationship) then the so called "work" in the relationship is actually "a labor of love".

    Gardening for example could be considered work. However for those who love dig into the dirt, pull weeds, plant seeds, nurture plants and flowers in order to have award winning results....These people find "joy" in the "work". (It's a labor of love). The same may be said for raising children. It has it's challenges but is also seen as being rewarding.

    Love is difficult work when you don't want to deal with the person you are involved with.

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    R. J. Lefebvreposted 6 years ago

    Love is a unique perspective for all of us, depending on growth enviroment, i.e. learning: how to give and take, show mutual respect, give others the benifit of the doubt, and most of all be yourself as a measure of sincerity.
    There are many variations of love, defined by coulture, growth experience, etc. For some of us, love comes easy and fruitful, for others its a challenge for change when sincerely attracted to someone. Love should elvolve by mutual respect by feeling comfortable mentally first, trusting, and  physical bonding.
    However, we all must understand none of us are perfect, we can do or say something that does not mesh. It should not be the final let down, unless repetition is shown as inevitable.
    R. J. Lefebvre

  5. ubanichijioke profile image75
    ubanichijiokeposted 6 years ago

    Love is one of the most difficult things to understand. When misunderstood[in whatever sense], results to problems. Thanks

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    reeltaulkposted 6 years ago

    If the truth be told nothing that is natural should be difficult, but as the world turns things natural and unnatural is thrown in the same bowl and becomes a difficult soup to swallow.
    Don't believe the hype that love is sometimes difficult, and .when it is, both parties will tackle whatever problem together.  Just a way of love testing To see what you as a couple, team, friendship or family should continue to have. Tne person making things difficult for the other is bulls shit and has nothing to do with love. #excuses

  7. Faceless39 profile image94
    Faceless39posted 6 years ago

    Love makes everything enjoyable, and difficulties easier to remedy.  Communication I think you'll find is the #1 answer couples will give as to how they managed to stay married for so long.  Good communication, honesty, respect--these make things very easy indeed.  Any relationship can be difficult at times, between any two people.  But if this love is ruining your life, it's obviously not really love anymore.

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    Phoebe Pikeposted 6 years ago

    Love changes over time. The love people feel evolves over time and the people head into different forms of themselves. You can work at it, but if the love exists, it will be easier to grow together than to grow apart. Of course all forms of love are true in some aspect, but to question it might mean you need to talk to your lover and see how they feel about the situation.

  9. Moms-Secret profile image83
    Moms-Secretposted 6 years ago

    I can only tell you that my love was easy.  It had a natural flow.  It was amazing and the satisfaction of knowing that I had the real thing, unique and powerful, keeps me going in my darkest days now.

    Does it mean that we agreed on everything, no, but we didn't fight about anything.  We were able to see what most people only see in hindsight.  Most things really do not matter as much as they seem to.  We don't take the things we worry about with us.  Worrying and arguing about things didn't change the outcome.  We were the same in our values and beliefs.  We were different in our styles and interests.  We loved each other enough to lift each other up and share most of our interest.

    I still hate wine, but loved going to vineyards and wine tastings with him.  They have the best grape juice!

  10. Borsia profile image44
    Borsiaposted 6 years ago

    "love shouldn't be this difficult" ????
    You would have to put some dimensions on what you are calling "difficult".

    Are you mistaking lust for love? Cause I can tell you that lust comes easy love is a challenge.
    At the same time if you are in a 2 way loving relation it is just a matter of putting the relationship ahead of your wants and needs. If you are both doing this everything else will work itself out.

  11. Lisa HW profile image73
    Lisa HWposted 6 years ago

    I very much believe that's true.  I once read that there are two things that always present in genuine love - respect and admiration.  Assuming that's true (and it seems to be to make sense and be true), there are a whole lot of problems that could be prevented/solved if/when respect and admiration are both present (not to mention any of the other positive things that can be present when love is real and whole).

  12. jeshon profile image69
    jeshonposted 6 years ago

    I think so, yes!
    Love itself should come easily and you should ot force it. So if there is a struggle for love and to keep love I don't think that the same love that was once there is still left. However I think that you can get back to love, but that may mean struggle. But my opinion of love is that it should not be difficult.

    http://jeshon.hubpages.com/hub/Apprecia … is-the-key

  13. anupma profile image79
    anupmaposted 6 years ago

    No, what I think that it is the nature of everything, that exists in this world, have both face- easy going and of course the problems that occur during the way. I think true love has to give many more tests than a false one. Because here you have to prove yourself that you really love someone and can sacrifice anything for him/her. But One thing that make the way easy, is the love and trust of someone. So whether the way is tough or easy, it becomes beautiful when your partner is true and with u.

  14. He Who Triumphs profile image61
    He Who Triumphsposted 6 years ago

    "The course of true love never did run smooth."--William Shakespeare.

    If love wasn't difficult, people wouldn't argue about things while in relationship, yet decide to stay together, work it out, and because of deepening in intimacy, love each other all the more. Not to mention that love involves sacrifice that is sometimes very difficult. But because we truly do love the person, we are willing to look past our own selfishness and do it.  My father always said that "Lust is getting what you want at someone else's expense, but love is giving someone what they need at your expense."  And that's not always easy. But it IS love.