Should I let it go or fight ?

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   Izabelakposted 13 years ago

   Should I let it go or fight ?
   
   Me and my boyfriend were engaged .. I love him with out a doubt. It seems like we get into rediculous fights especially when we have had something to drink ..We end up fighting to the point where he walks out on me ... And it takes days for him to finally start talking to me and start to understand what had happened .. We get back together but it happens again and again it's getting to the point where he is becoming extremely nasty to me and he won't listen to a word I say  ... He wants to meet and give each other our things back I won't be able to stand seeing him walk away again what to do ?

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   dashingscorpioposted 13 years ago

   Read your statement
   "he is becoming extremely nasty to me and he won't listen to a word I say ... He wants to meet and give each other our things back I won't be able to stand seeing him walk away again..."
   Do you really think this will "improve" after saying "I do"? (Not likely!)
   
   Your real question should be "Why do I want to stay with a guy who treats me like crap and has no problem walking out on me?"
   Clearly he's not as "emotionally invested" in the relationship as you. You don't mention your ages but this does not sound like a "mature couple" ready to merge their lives together for a lifetime. Too many couples stay in unhealthy relationships for far to long because they've bought into the idea that relationships require "a lot of work". There's a major difference between "a labor of love" and "work". Don't confuse drama/passion with love. Best of luck!

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   Borsiaposted 13 years ago

   I hate to be the one to say, second one that is, it but your relationship is already over.
   It's time to pick yourself up and move on.
   There is no point in trying to make this work because in the end it won't.
   As another said just read your own post and you will see all the answers.
   Accept the obvious and smile when he walks away, you will be better off.
   You might want to question how wise it is to be drinking if you have this problem with others. But with him it just drops the thin vale of politeness and both your true feelings come through. Fights over nothing aren't really over nothing.

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   juiwei2000posted 13 years ago

   All cuple have their problem, I can not tell you whether you should sperate or stay together, that is for you to decide.  But you have to understand, speration might not always be a bad thing, sometime, it is better to seperate earlier then to get a messy divorce later onwards, on the other hand, you also have to understand all couples have their problem.  my suggestion to you is, don't try to over think it, what is meant to happen, is meant to happen.  I don't know what is the right thing for you to do, because I am not amount you two and know limited amount of information, in this instant, I would trust your judgment and say, you should do what you think is right.

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