What to do when he already wants out and not you?

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   cosmicdustposted 13 years ago

   What to do when he already wants out and not you?

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   Erin Boggs1posted 13 years ago

   Let him go. He obviously doesn't appreciate you fully and he takes you for granted. He seems to think the grass is greener on the other side, so let him find out that it isn't on his own. Meanwhile, you take the time to discover your self-worth and why you should be appreciated, then find a mate that is equal to you and treats you equal.

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   cephlaposted 13 years ago

   If a relationship is worth saving, worth existing somebody always says something. Somebody always fights to keep it alive. You obviously still want it - fight for it, till you can't fight any longer. That's the only way that works for me, which is why I suggest the same to you.
   
   All the best Ms. Dust!

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   Moms-Secretposted 13 years ago

   The hardest thing to do for most people is to let go of what you know.  Even if it is bad for you, when you know something or someone you feel secure in that you can handle this.  The unknown, while it could be better, is scary.
   
   The truth is that we are not here long enough to put our efforts and heart where it is not wanted.  I wish that you would have the freeing experience that I did.  It changes everything.  Even tho my heart is bleeding for him now, I would choose him again.  No regrets.

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   dashingscorpioposted 13 years ago

   One major requirement for knowing he's "the one" is he must also see you as being "the one" for him. Relationships like jobs are "at will". No one is "stuck" with anyone. If he wants out it's over. Be grateful he's not sticking around going through the motions and wasting your precious time.
   You are far better off being with someone who actually wants to be with you!

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   JenJen0703posted 13 years ago

   They say "absence makes the heart grow fonder."  He may go and quickly realize it was a bad decision, but if a guy did that to me, I do not know if I would let him come back.  Relationships are about commitment and sticking together in life, even if both parties do not agree.  A woman deserves a man that will treat her right.

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   reeltaulkposted 13 years ago

   Want the same for yourself!  Want what you have to offer for you and focus on loving YOU. According to Stevie Wonder Loves in need of  Love, but in this case I see You're in need of Love!
   After reading Cephia comment I say....fight for what's worth fighting for.  Don't fight for someone that will eventually set you up for a fight that you're bound to lose

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   Faceless39posted 13 years ago

   Move on because obviously you know why the caged bird sings:  For freedom.

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   ThomasRydderposted 13 years ago

   Why does he want out? Do you know? Is it things you do, a need to be "single" once again, or is it just not there? Communication is key...talk about it...find out the answers to those questions, then decide in regard to the answers you have.

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    stricktlydatingposted 13 years ago

    Just let him have his way.  Tell him it's not want you want but let him leave freely if he thinks that's what he wants.

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    courtlneygdtmposted 13 years ago

    If he wants out, then by all means let him go.  You do not want to be in a one-sided relationship, with you doing all the giving, and he doing all of the taking.  Even if he stays after you beg him to -- it will probably be short-term.  He will eventually leave anyway. Better now than later. Think of your time (and you)  as being too valuable to be wasted with someone who wants out.
    
    --courtlneygdtm

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    ambassadornchainsposted 13 years ago

    Let him go.  There is no point clinging on to someone who doesn't want you.  You're wasting your time and your heart that you COULD spend on someone who truly loves and cherishes you.  Just because someone wants out doesn't mean there is something wrong with YOU...It could just be your personalities are clashing in a not-so-cute "opposites attract" kind of way, but in a more severe way that just won't work out.  Don't try to make something fit that wasn't made to.  You'll lead a miserable life...Wait, learn to be confident on your OWN, rely on yourself, and wait for someone who truly loves your and respects who you are without having to change who you are or your goals.

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