Should a woman approach a man?

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   findawayormakeoneposted 13 years ago

   Should a woman approach a man?
   
   I had a pretty good debate with some women recently and none of us could reach a firm conclusion. Does a woman look agressive or desperate if she approaches a man? Or should we own up to the fact that its 2011 and gender roles are all but clear anymore.

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   Ramsa1posted 13 years ago

   I see no reason why a woman should not approach a man if she is interested in him. This, after all, is the 21st century. Have fun.

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   dashingscorpioposted 13 years ago

   I don't think it matters if a woman approaches a man. If he's attracted to her he's not going to be turned off because she initiated their meeting. However there is something a woman or man must keep in mind when approaching anyone and that is there is always a 50-50 chance of being rejected. In the event you are rejected don't get bitter about it. At least you know where you stand and that beats walking around "wondering". I suspect a lot women are afraid of rejection. They believe the person being asked has the power. However it's the asker who is free to move on and ask someone else out while the passive person has to wait to be approached again. Traditionally men and women reject each other differently. Women reject men (directly) by saying "no". Men reject women (indirectly) by ignoring them or not approaching them. Both types of rejection can hurt just as much if you are interested in that person.

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   nomadicasianposted 13 years ago

   It depends on the given situation, like, if the purpose is only to flirt and nothing but to flirt, well that would be a disappointing kind of move on the part of a woman. But if the intention is merely part of getting to know each other kind of approach, that would be great.

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   SanXuaryposted 13 years ago

   The older the man is the less likely he will approach you. The reason is simple, there is no way to determine a woman's status in today's world. I have had several women get angry at me because I simply ignore them. It really is not me ignoring them but there complete in ability to let me know that they are even interested. So the answer is that women should always let a man know. In today's World it is very risky for men to take chances. A woman gets off free in most every scenario. In fact most men would be caught off guard and you might have to wait a day to get an answer. Women only have to ask a guy if he would like to have lunch and there is no risk in that but it would be some what obvious that there might be an interest to talk about.

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   juiwei2000posted 13 years ago

   You can if you want, but as a guy, I know most guys don't like to be told what to do, in the dating world and a lot of guys, actually like the chasing girl part.  But, hey, you can approach him if you want, there is nothing wrong about it, whether it would succeed or not...beat the hell out of me, anyway, good luck

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   rikabothraposted 13 years ago

   I totally feel that a woman can approach a man without being judged but at the same time should be careful of not coming across very strong or bold - a light conversation will always be appreciated and then they can take it from there,  depending on which way the conversation steers.

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