Why do women use men to validate themselves?
Some women (and some men) are often left without a way to validate themselves. So, instead, they rest on the whims of multiple men to make them feel better about who they are. As soon as he says, You are so sexy, the woman's world is lit and the only thing that brings her down is when he says, You're stupid though.
Low self-esteem/self-worth. And the way to get past that is to develop self-acceptance.
No girl can be like Samantha Jones unless she accepts that in a way that is liberating, its not. It goes to show how these women are brought up, women are women and women can't be men in essence.
In this society we're bred to be trophies. We're brainwashed by Barbie dolls, shows, movies, and society at large to think we're sex symbols and nothing more. It's no wonder women become sex symbols and nothing more.
Although there are no absolute definition of what is beautiful and sexy, the type of guys or girls that man and woman find sexual attractive are pretty much of a particular form, for example, you won't find too many guys be sexually attracted to fat girls. Plus, people like the idea that they are the type of people the opposite sex generally find sexually attractive, because people like to be love, it is a human instinct.
I don't think it is validation. I am friends with women who are actresses or dancers and stunningly beautiful. They know they are beautiful because it is part of their career. However, every time I tell them how beautiful they are, they light up.
You know, one of the ultimate things I've ever felt is knowing that someone else loves me romantically. Once you've found that and lost it, I can imagine it would be hard to find something to match that feeling again! I think a lot of women feel like they aren't beautiful or smart or sexy but one compliment from a man and they're feeling great about themselves. I think it's knowing that somebody else in the world has qualified you as appealing. Once you've had your looks validated, it is a little easier to have that confidence, truth be told!
You are absolutely right, findaway.Some women (not all, fortunately , lol) need a man's approval to feel good about themselves and validate their self worth.I always wondered about that.Why can't it be onother woman to be assigned such a role or why can't it be just their own self to validate their self worth? My guess is probably from Previous unpleasant life experiences ? I wonder if that holds true for men too? Do men need women's approval to feel good about themselves as well as not to feel good about themselves?Any answers , here from the gentlemen of this room?please stand up and raise your hand , LOL!!!
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