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Would you end a long term friendship if you discovered this friend envied everyt

  1. Libra Rajani profile image60
    Libra Rajaniposted 6 years ago

    Would you end a long term friendship if you discovered this friend envied everything about you?

    You have a friend that you get along with in every way, but when it comes to supporting your dreams and aspirations, they're never around and they falter. How would you handle this situation? Would you end the friendship?

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    pgornerposted 6 years ago

    You need to. Because you know damn well they're gonna be there when you succeed being all "I knew you could do it!"

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    stessilyposted 6 years ago

    Extreme envy is a poison. Sometimes people parasitically cling to someone else in order to draw everything they want from that person, and they do not give in return. It is not at all a mutually beneficial situation.
    If distance is required I would find a way to minimize the interaction so that soon there is no interaction.
    On the other hand, a true parasite, perceiving a win turned into a loss by not being able to leech any more, will move in search of fresher, unsuspecting prey.

  4. capricornrising profile image60
    capricornrisingposted 6 years ago

    Not unless they clearly began to use it against me. I suppose before that it would depend on how important this friendship were, and how well they were treating me. Envy can be complimentary. If they were treating me well, and the envy were taking the form of admiration, I would find a way to emphasize whatever it was I admired about them in return. I would remark on their accomplishments often, and reciprocate the attention. This way, I would hope to save the friendship, rather than assuming the admiration were antagonistic.

  5. Lisa Luv profile image77
    Lisa Luvposted 6 years ago

    I probably would have to eventually because the jealousy & negativity would eventually rear itself to cause a blow up, and I would have to sever that negativity from my life.  I would always feel the loss, but also know I did the right and only thing I could.

  6. NiaLee profile image62
    NiaLeeposted 6 years ago

    You need to step away. People who envy may slip and do or say wrong or bad things to you or about you... worst, their negative energy may damage things you try to do and yourself. I had a person like that in my life, I considered a sister...anytime I wanted to do something she was their but criticism was strong and negativity high... I ended up hiding from her because she has a black tongue...if Obama had told her he wanted to run for president, I can assure you he wouldn't be president today. She has very negative energy.
    Surround yourself we people who are positive and supportive, please.
    Love to you and all

  7. juiwei2000 profile image60
    juiwei2000posted 6 years ago

    He/She is not a real friend, I suppose.  That is my take on it

  8. whoisbid profile image76
    whoisbidposted 6 years ago

    I think that good friends are very rare and if you have one, then count your lucky stars. I wrote about good/bad friends in a poem today http://whoisbid.hubpages.com/hub/Am-I-your-friend

  9. stariswhoiam profile image60
    stariswhoiamposted 6 years ago

    If the person was truly a friend, they would want you to be happy and be happy for you.

  10. Eunice Stuhlhofer profile image59
    Eunice Stuhlhoferposted 6 years ago

    Someone said there are frienemies ( enemies masquerading as friends) and with these we need to be careful. They are neither here nor there. If a friendship has outlived it's time for any reason, it's only fair to say goodbye. And more important, some friends turn out to be dream killers due to envy. There is no reason to continue investing in such relations if you want to grow.