How do you know if a man is sincere about his commitment to you? If his actions

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   smudge63posted 12 years ago

   How do you know if a man is sincere about his commitment to you? If his actions conflict with words
   
   Im now 48 years old as is my partner.  He said he wanted to marry me but would propose when he was ready.We have lived together for 3 years and after I said I didnt want to be a 50yr old bride agreed to ask me this year.  Now saying he felt I pressurised him into that promise and that he doesnt need a piece of paper to prove his commitment since he is still here despite the fact I have been ill over the last year.  I feel we are not making plans for our future and that he doesnt love me as much as he should because he wont ask me.  How do I know that I am not just being strung along?

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   heather92383posted 12 years ago

   Can you make a lasting commitment with one person? If so, can they do the same? Read on to find if your relationship can stand the test of time or will fold easily. read more

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   Some people would consider living together in a monogamus relationship for 3 years to be a commitment. Men don't get caught up on being unmarried regardless of age. There is nothing "magical" that happens after the wedding. When it's all said and done he will be the same guy and you will be the same woman.  You state that you are 48 and don't want to be a "50 year old bride". Getting married should have nothing to do with your age! People over the age of 50 get married all the time.
   If you are determined to be married within a "deadline" you may wish to move on. You shouldn't have to sell, persuade, nag, beg, or give ultimatums in order to have someone exchange vows with you. All marriages will have their challenges. However at the very least a marriage should start off with (BOTH) people (wanting) to get married!
   Keep in mind you also have the right to propose to him! Does it really make a difference who asks whom when two people are in love? Once you have your answer you have to make the decision to either "get out" or learn to live without. Best of luck!

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   karen spicerposted 12 years ago

   actually you have almost answered your own question. Remember this, talk is cheap. and actions speak louder than words. Even in the bible god says you say you love me with yor lips but your heart  is far from me. If you are in a persons heart it will show.

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