Is a bad marriage worth saving?
This is a follow up to the question: Can any marriage be saved? If any marriage can be saved then is it assumed that a bad marriage is worth saving.
Not meaning to be too brief, or maybe some think is better to withheld some details, one could say the answer its obvious. An apple falls from a tree, hits the floor, now its rotten, full of worms, what would be a fair description of the person that has the courage to pick that apple up and sink her teeth in it?
First fix it, then save it. You wouldn't want to save it in an undesirable state.
In order to have a good marriage both people have to WANT the same thing from it and agree upon how to obtain it. If one person wants to go right and the other person wants to go left what is the point?
Opposites may attract in the short run but it's like that attracts like in the long run. Life is too short to be spending time trying to change water into wine or trying to put square pegs into round holes. Going along to get along will never lead to happiness. The so called "work" in a marriage is actually a "labor of love" when two people want the best for the marriage.
A commitment is not written in stone. Each of us has and is entitled to have our own "deal breakers". No one should have to live under horrible conditions simply because they said, "I do" to the wrong person. A divorce when you get right down to it is nothing more than one or both people concluding a mistake was made. Even in our justice system we let most criminals out of prison eventually. Why should anyone be "locked" into a bad marriage because of a decision they may have made at 21, 28, 35 or whenever. New information and new circumstances changes everything. You are responsible for your own happiness. It's your life, take the wheel!
Awhile back I wrote a hub offering more details on my view of commitment.
http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/ … forgranted
I would have to say NO. If it is a BAD marriage there has been much damage done.
Call it a wrap...
It depends. What is your definition of a "bad" marriage? Were you in love in the beginning? Was this vow to be with this person through thick in thin said with real meaning? If so, then I believe, yes, it is worth saving. It my mind, the day I married my husband I couldn't have loved someone more. There is nothing he could do that would make me leave him. Yes, there are conflicts and issues that require resolution, but if we are both two willing parties who love each other then it is worth it. Some days I get so mad I want to run away, but then I put the effort in to fall right back in love with him. I would say, if you loved him then and were willing to vow your life to him, what has happened that is so bad you need to quit? Will this happen again in another marriage?
I think you should try to do EVERYTHING you possibly could. And if it doesn't workout out, then I guess divorce is the way to go. But I really think it is worth saving, unless you don't like the person anymore, but that's unlikely, considering that you married him/her
It depends if a bad marriage is worth saving. Meaning is there any physical abuse, emotional abuse, and verbal abuse. If the marriage experience these things then the marriage is not worth saving. Now the marriage is worth saving if the couple want to make an effort together and rekindle the romance. Some married couple give up to easy, because marriage is hard work.
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