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Relationships ~ Can a bad Marriage Age you?

  1. Lady_E profile image74
    Lady_Eposted 5 years ago

    Relationships ~ Can a bad Marriage Age you?

    If a couple have spent about 5 to 10 years in an unhappy relationship together, could it make them look much older than their age, or would it just be emotionally taxing?

  2. msorensson profile image72
    msorenssonposted 5 years ago

    Any kind of stress contributes to aging...The biochemical reason is that under stress, a lot more free radicals that damage the cell membranes, not only on the skin, but everywhere in your body, is produced. So reducing stress wherever it comes from is good not only for your looks but for your whole being.

    According to my friend in Japan,  a Zen Master, one looks more beautiful when one is happy so a happy marriage contributes to the overall well being of a person.

  3. badegg profile image77
    badeggposted 5 years ago

    Yes. Absolutely. It can age you physically, mentally and emotionally. It can cause many sleepless nights and much stress.

  4. onegoodwoman profile image76
    onegoodwomanposted 5 years ago

    I would think so........

    You only have to look at the face across from yours, and ponder..................an easy life or a troubled one..........All manner of circumstances will show themselves in a lifetime.

    Though, we can not look at a particular wrinkle and think " bad marriage", or hard childhood, or even, troubled childbirth..................we can know if life has been hard or with eases...   For most people, marriage is a great part of life......it is the springboard of our adult promises and disappointments.

    Even, children of a hard childhood, do not have wrinkles.

    "spinisters" sometimes do..............it is TIME , worry, and self neglect, that wrinkle us.  Marriage can add to it.....so can the absence of  empty promises and desires.

  5. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    Absoulutely whether it's a bad relationship with a mate, a boss, or anyone you feel an obligation to engage with frequently. Toxic relationships are unhealthy period. It's important to always remember that life is a personal journey. You may not be able to control another person but you do have the ability to control whether or not spend time with them. Oftentimes the reason why people (choose) to stay in bad relationships is because they lack the courage to change. However the truth is; When we change our circumstances change. Thankfully there are more than 7 billion people on the planet. All of us have options! :-)

  6. edhan profile image60
    edhanposted 5 years ago

    Stress is the factor of aging as we will have more wrinkles and turning grey. Worst effect will be on health as stress will break down your immune system in a way that it will be perform at its best when needed.

  7. Faceless39 profile image92
    Faceless39posted 5 years ago

    It absolutely can and will; stress will do that to people.  That said, you can reclaim yourself and ease yourself back out of stress and back into looking and feeling good again!

  8. Pamela99 profile image88
    Pamela99posted 5 years ago

    Absolutely, yes. The body can do fine with an occasional  stress in life but chronic stress can cause numerous diseases and it certainly will age you. Your body doesn't know the difference between perceived stress and real stress, so the effects are the same. These include high blood pressure, suppression of the immune system, increased risk of heart attack or stroke and it speeds of the aging process.

  9. nightwork4 profile image61
    nightwork4posted 5 years ago

    doctors say that stress can age you , cause poor health and other things to happen so i would say yes to your question.

  10. algarveview profile image89
    algarveviewposted 5 years ago

    I think unhapiness in general can age you, so a bad marriage can also. I remember a few years ago I saw a documentary on a study on Twins and there were these 50 year old women (twins), one of which had a happy marriage and the other an unhappy marriage, that actually ended in divorce, and mentally, physically she seemed 5 or 10 years older than her twin... So, there you go, there was no other significant differences between the two, except that bit of information, so...

  11. Jynzly profile image72
    Jynzlyposted 5 years ago

    Only if you allow it.
    Human beings are inherently endowed with a thinking mind to choose and decide on the quality of life he is going to lead. Sad to say though, that most people choose to think according to what everybody thinks and then believe that he is original in those thoughts...
    "It is easier to follow (to be in the bandwagon) than to really THINK.

  12. Express10 profile image87
    Express10posted 5 years ago

    I think it does. My beau and I were just talking about a couple we know pretty well. They are truly hating each other and have been married since high school. The lady's looks began going downhill shortly after they married but over the last couple of years it seems like the guy is really aging quickly with dark circles, wrinkles, and bags under the eyes. He works and the wife stays at home overeating, nagging via text and phone, and watching soap operas and wrestling while doing nothing with her life. The guy is fed up but seems to be too afraid to divorce her and get on with his life. She doesn't even want him to exercise so he's gained a lot of weight just like her. Every time she sees him exercising, she angrily asks "who are you trying to look good for?"

  13. daydreamer13 profile image61
    daydreamer13posted 5 years ago

    I would say yes because any type of stress ages you and to be in a bad marriage would be extremely stressful.

  14. 702norris profile image61
    702norrisposted 5 years ago

    The key to your question keep a healthy diet,and a good workout daily.

  15. wisdom25 profile image79
    wisdom25posted 5 years ago

    I believe anything that makes you stress will make you look older. When you are unhappy it is unhealthy. So yes an unhealthy marriage can age you.

  16. pstraubie48 profile image85
    pstraubie48posted 5 years ago

    Absolutely. If you allow it too. And sometimes your body unconsciously reacts to the stress of an unhappy situation which can make you physically ill. 

    Right at this time I know a young woman who is in such a situation. It is a messy divorce that is on going, dragging on and on. She has aged so much in the last year. She has deep wrinkles etched in her face where before there were none. She looks ten years older now..no exaggeration.