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Is it immoral to leave your well-established family to move in with a 18-year ol

  1. anglnwu profile image92
    anglnwuposted 6 years ago

    Is it immoral to leave your well-established family to move in with a 18-year old?

    This is in response to an article about a Modesto teacher who leaves his family to start a future with his former 18-year old student.

  2. wilderness profile image97
    wildernessposted 6 years ago

    The age of the mistress is immaterial.

    If the teacher has decided to ignore his promise to remain married forever without his wife being of the same mind, yes it is immoral.

    Practical, maybe, but it is not moral to intentionally renege on a promise.

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    Arlene V. Pomaposted 6 years ago

    It happens, but I don't judge these people because this is more common that you think.  The valedictorian of my high school class married one of his teachers, and I think she was pushing 40 at the time.  She divorced her hubby to marry him.  I think they divorced by the 30th class reunion.  Maybe even sooner.  A classmate of mine married after high school and had a beautiful little girl.  He divorced his wife and daughter, then somehow managed to move in with the kid's babysitter, who was only 17.  Then there was the girl in high school who barely turned 18 and married one of her teachers, who was 35 years old.  This was his third marriage.  Tsk, tsk.  Why do people do these things?  I'm sure they regret it in time.  That girl is only 18.  If the teacher dumped her, she would be screwed.  Since it doesn't seem she is working on her education or working at all, she is fully dependendent on this Modesto teacher who should have known better.  He should have stepped away and let her get her education.  If he leaves her, she's screwed.  Many women of all ages are in her position because they don't think.  And it's even more tragic when there's children involved.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image89
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    I don't think the age matters as long as both people are legally adults. Apparently something went wrong within the marriage. Most people don't walk away from happy and loving relationships. In fact the common warning given to mistresses is "Married men will string them on and will NEVER leave their wives." Who knows maybe his wife changed or he changed. Either way (the best marriages are between two people who want each other). Once that is no longer the case you are better off moving on.
    Ideally one should reach that conclusion prior to entering into another relationship. Unfortunately many people treat relationships like jobs. They won't leave one until they have another one lined up.

  5. duffsmom profile image61
    duffsmomposted 6 years ago

    Leaving one's family for another person is a betrayal and breaks the promise made when they married.  It hurts the spouse certainly but also the children. I would call that immoral.

  6. Daughter Of Maat profile image96
    Daughter Of Maatposted 6 years ago

    You know I have a pretty odd opinion of this. The guy left his family, went public knowing it would ruin his career, I just don't think this is just about the physical aspect of a relationship like my hubby thinks. I just have a feeling that the teacher was never in love with his wife to begin with, and he fell in love with the teenager. Maybe she's his soulmate, you can't choose your soulmates, so it kinda makes more sense to me that way. I don't know it's hard to say if it's truly immoral without knowing all the details. My opinion is still out on this one.