How do you tell your best friend that his girl friend is horrible?

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   Ona Canadyposted 13 years ago

   How do you tell your best friend that his girl friend is horrible?
   
   My best friend started dating a girl about half a year ago, at first she was nice. Then she would keep him from his friends and I've seen her on several occasions miss treating his daughter. Not to mention that my husband had to cancel his annual boys fishing trip cause she tried to invite herself and when she chose not to go told our best friend he had to be back early making it pointless to go fishing. How can I tell him that he needs to get rid of her?

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   Jaggedfrostposted 13 years ago

   As to his own discomfort, if it is nothing to him why does it matter to you?  If you see him mistreat his kid without his being around then that might be something to pass on discretely without emotion.  It might be helpful to pass on a video in the case where you have already shot your credibility by complaining about her too much.

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   MickSposted 13 years ago

   It's up to him who he chooses to be his girlfriend, he has his own life to lead and he's a big boy now, the best thing you can do is concern yourself with your own business, not his.

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   dashingscorpioposted 13 years ago

   Each of us gets to select our own friends, lovers, and spouse. We don't get to tell someone who they should be with or who they should dump. It's always best to "stay in your own lane". Having said that if it is a very good friend you might point out your observations but (let them reach their own conclusions).

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   Mercia Collinsposted 13 years ago

   You should either tell him yourself, or get your husband to do so, about her mistreating his son, but you should do so without complaining about your other reservations about her. If you go on about disliking her, you compel him to defend her, and you may scupper your friendship. This would be a great pity.
   
   Normally, it is best not to try and pick other people's partners for them and to reserve judgment in these matters. The mistreatment of your friend's son however, makes this a special case, but proceed carefully and with tact.

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