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Do women expect more from their best friends than men?

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dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago
Do women expect more from their best friends than men?

Aside from picking up the tab now and then or lending a few dollars if needed, It seems that men have less expectations of one another when it comes to friendships. They tend to get together just to enjoy each other's company whether it be to watch a sporting event, participate in some activity, or have some drinks and shoot the breeze. Rarely do they have any deep or heart to heart conversations. It also appears there is less falling out between them. Most of the questions I see on hubpages regarding friendship problems appear to come from women. Do men expect less from their friends?

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msorenssonposted 5 years ago
Do men expect less from their friends?

Men are expected to be strong all the time. It is how society has programmed everyone.

Men have to keep appearances with other men..I think. They can tell the women their deepest emotions as a sign of trust but..if they do other men, it might be construed as a sign of weakness...I do not know.

Women have no such expectations from their friends..men or women alike.

For the most part, all the women need is someone who will listen to their complaints..We never expect each other to solve our problems...at least none of my friends do.
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Rastamermaidposted 5 years ago
Men are from Mars,women are from Venus it's kind of like that. Things that girlfriends do and what men do with male friends is totally different.

Women borrow each others clothes,swap recipes,go shopping together,men on the other hand aren't like that. Yeah they'll meetup for the game,have a few beers but believe their talking all sports or chics,not the same depth as a girls night out.

I have male friends quite a few and our discussions are always hot topics,current events and they don't want recipes,they want the dish made for them and brought with you and for you to set up the food and drinks when you come. They like to put the ladies to work. When the girls hang we all chip in,everyone makes a dish or a bottle of wine and we chill,converse a laid back chill aura. Men get togethers aren't usually so chill,calm after the first case of beer the volume goes up and the party is on.

I'm not going to say men expect less from their friends,just that women expect more from theirs.
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Lady Summersetposted 5 years ago
Since the age of 7, most of my best friends were boys then men. I love the ability of being frank, honest, and logical with them. I've always enjoyed having the male view to balance decision-making in all areas of my life. In fact, my husband always tell our friends, "if you see a circle of men, you best be assured that my wife is in the middle of them!"
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Squirrelgonzoposted 5 years ago
Nope, I think that women and men react different to certain situations though and those reactions can be perceived as greater expectations because we are programmed differently.

I dunno...maybe I'm oversimplifying things... Ah well.
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cat on a soapboxposted 5 years ago
My husband is my strength, and I can feel totally vulnerable around him. Girls are better listeners and can relate more effectively. We give each other validation by sharing our problems and concerns. At this point in life, I find that we girlfriends are not judgemental. We share the same highs and lows and that just strenghthens the bonds of sisterhood. Also, most of us have lost our moms. We fill that void for each other. I still expect my husband to make the decisions for me if I am incapable. I trust him with our child, and I look to him first if I am having a tough time. My girlfriends run a very close second.
Men bond w/ each other differently than women. They don't as often confide in each other or let on to problems unless it is a best friend. I think they get validity from physical presence rather than words.
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