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How to tell a girl that you love her?

  1. greeneryday profile image77
    greenerydayposted 5 years ago

    How to tell a girl that you love her?

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    danielabramposted 5 years ago

    It all depends on how much you know the girl. You can't say the same thing to a girl you've just met verse been on a first date with verse have a long-term relationship with...

    1. debbiepinkston profile image81
      debbiepinkstonposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Hopefully a guy wouldn't say "I love you" on the first date.  We can't know them well enough to really love them.  We may love what we see at first but time will reveal who this person really is.

  3. Mellonyy profile image74
    Mellonyyposted 5 years ago

    Every woman likes confident men. Be honest and straightforward, show her first and then tell her. Are you afraid of rejection?! Then, don't tell her nothing:)

  4. sradie profile image74
    sradieposted 5 years ago

    Words are a good way, I love you seems to work. But, the proof is in the doing. Set her heart afire with the words, turn that into an inferno with your actions. Listen uncritically and don't try to 'fix' everything. Talking things out is often a way to clarify and solve problems in her own mind. Maybe all she needs is an attentive ear. Hold but do not smother. Sometimes a little rub of the neck and shoulders has more value than an erotic caress. It all depends on the moment. Be observant. There are usually things that you can do for her without being asked that express her value to her without a lot of fanfare. Do the dishes, fold the laundry, feed the cat, change the baby. Go for a walk or a drive just for the fun of it. It's how you use the moments you have together that says 'I love you' sometimes even better than the words. They go together really.

  5. sonnyhodgin profile image61
    sonnyhodginposted 5 years ago

    When the time is right, just come out and say it.

  6. YvetteParker profile image76
    YvetteParkerposted 5 years ago

    Tell a girl that you love her by becoming her friend first, demonstrating your love for her secondly, and then telling her thirdly. In that order, by the time you get ready to tell her; she'll already know.

    1. greeneryday profile image77
      greenerydayposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Completely agree, becoming friend first let the feeling to get stronger naturally, by the time you are ready to tell her she'll already know, this is one of a better approach...

  7. debbiepinkston profile image81
    debbiepinkstonposted 5 years ago

    You can just say "I love you", but that isn't enough.  Your actions must back up your words.  Asking her how she feels, listening to her, finding out what she needs from you and doing your best to meet her needs is the best way to show that you love her.  Actions speak louder than words, but a girl always likes to hear the words too.

  8. alphagirl profile image83
    alphagirlposted 5 years ago

    Ask her to go go somewhere that is quiet..it can be a simple as going for a walk, getting some ice cream or you cooking dinner. Something that is simple and a place you or activity you both like...pack a simple picnic lunch....or have dinner ready for her with a few candles in her place. Ask her if you can have dinner ready for her...it can be take-out if you can not cook...

    It may feel awkward when you first say it because you are not sure of her response. I am hoping for you it is mutual...good-luck and keep us posted.

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    Larry Wallposted 5 years ago

    First, there are the preliminaries that will get her attention. Dinners, flowers, letters (real letters not e-mail) and so on are always a good start.

    But that is like putting primer on the wall. It really is necessary if you want a long-lasting paint job that holds us. Both members of the couple have to be prepared for what you are about to say. So the preliminary events i mentioned are just getting the two of you ready for the day you simply say, "I love you, or I hope you know how much I love you." The words are not written in stone, but they have to be honest, sincere and spoken with truth and conviction.

    I met my wife 33 years ago. I could have proposed that night. I realized that might be rushing things. We dated for about three months before I told her and four months later we were married. Just celebrated 32 years last month.

    As in many cases, some family members do not always care for the person, you choose. My mother was ill (ALS) and my sister really did not want to see me get married at that time--afraid I would not help out with my mother.

    Years later, when I was sick and my sister saw how much my wife did for me and for others, she wrote to me and said she was glad "I had the good sense to ignore her and others and marry my wife. She is a real jewel." I could not agree more.

    Good luck to you.