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How do you help someone get over being dumped?

  1. soconfident profile image84
    soconfidentposted 5 years ago

    How do you help someone get over being dumped?

  2. Myriad profile image60
    Myriadposted 5 years ago

    Very difficult one this. There is no one thing you can do to make you feel better. May be alcohol can help you temporarily, but I am not sure how this will affect you. You can try your luck with the next girl smile may be religion can help you . But surely meditation can help you overcome. If you are very badly affected you can visit a psychologist

    1. soconfident profile image84
      soconfidentposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Well its not me my friend has been dumped and I want to help him get over it.

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    Garifaliaposted 5 years ago

    Very easy...........for me not for the dumped. Take a note book and open it smack in the middle. On the left side tape the 'dumper's' pic., on the right the 'dumped'.
    Underneath each pic write down the good points and negative points of each. YOU make certain to add very many negative points under the 'dumper's' pic and a great many good points under the 'dumped's' pic. For each point the 'dumped' will doubt about make certain you have an example ready of instances involving those two people.

    YOUR FRIEND-the dumped crying: "Frank was so good looking and so patient and sooo sensitive......."

    YOU: "Yes, your ex was a very patient person. I remember you had dragged the poor guy shopping and he waited so patiently until you tried on all those clothes and he even gave you positive feedback. But then you did buy him that new ipad he wanted; you always were very generous with your man.

    Little did you know he had taken down the shop assistant's number while you were in the dressing room!   Is that what you deserve???"

  4. mackyi profile image64
    mackyiposted 5 years ago

    I must honestly say this is a tough spot for anyone to be in --- being dumped! The sad thing about this, no one has a magic wand that they can just wave to let the pain and heart ache immediately vanished. Believe me, it takes time to mend a broken heart!

    The key to getting over being dumped however, is to stay positive and try to be strong. Anyone who is in this predicament, also needs to stay busy at all times. Understandably, no one is going to baby-sit you for 24hrs, but try as much as you can to garnish all the support that is available from positive friends and family members. Sometimes we need to tell ourselves that maybe this is not the person that God has for me!

    Caution! please don't go crying or begging this person. Even though you might be aching deep within, don't break down in the presence of this person -- Stay away. Tell yourself, that's whatever belongs to you in life, will remain with you. Pray to God to send you that special someone that belongs to you! He will answer your prayer.

    1. soconfident profile image84
      soconfidentposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Great advice, because my friend just sleeps and drink all day. So maybe its time that I spend some time with him.

    2. Ebonny profile image89
      Ebonnyposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I think this answer has it all - top advice

  5. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    I think it is important to remind them that their ex was not "the one". In order for him or her to be "the one" they would have also seen your friend as being "the one". The underlying definition of a soul-mate is two people having (mutual feelings) for one another, shared values and relationship goals.
    The next thing is to keep in mind that all relationships are (at will). In other words we have no control over what someone else decided they want to do with their lives. Let go of the notion of needing "closure". Ultimately there is nothing he or she can say that will make you feel better about having your heart broken. Most of those conversations are nothing more than a request to be kicked in the head. Whatever it was they didn't like about you could be the same thing that causes another person to fall madly in love with you!
    If your friend is like most people there were probably things in their life they had been neglecting while in the relationship (ie) goals, friends, family, or hobbies. Now is the time to reconnect and pursue those interests. Time is the real cure. Remember your future lies ahead of you and not behind you. Take things one day at a time and move on. Not long ago I wrote a hub on this subject which may help. http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/ … in-General Best of luck!

    1. soconfident profile image84
      soconfidentposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I agree He need something take his mind forward and work on himself.

  6. Lisa HW profile image73
    Lisa HWposted 5 years ago

    You don't.  As with every other kind of crummy thing that goes on in life people have to figure their own way of getting over something.  Besides that..  they need time.  All anyone else can do is aim to be supportive;  don't expect the other person to do things s/he's not ready to do and don't have an opinion about whether or not the person should "be over it" or "just move on".

    1. soconfident profile image84
      soconfidentposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      thanks my friend told me something like that

  7. lupine profile image74
    lupineposted 5 years ago

    The only thing you can do is be there for the person, if you really want to help, listen to them, eventhough it may be  the same story over and over again. They will get over it once they understand they can only do so much and the person who dumped them is not the right person. We can't control what other people do, but we can control how it affects us. I just helped someone in this situation, I knew what he went though and how he felt, so I wrote a poem, showed it to him and it made him laugh, said it described his situation exactly. See it on my hub: Poem: Love is Gone...

  8. benashiraz profile image70
    benashirazposted 4 years ago

    Drinking is the worst thing to do when you go through a trauma in your life. Tell your friend to eat nutritious foods as it makes you happy. Tell your friend to increase his vitamin B intake. Vitamin B helps fight depression and crying spells. Plus the worst thing is that drinking causes the deficiency of Vitamin B in your body thus resulting in vast depression. Let him mourn, nothing can stop him. One has to actually go through that process, he'll eventually get over it with time. Why punish oneself for the bad thing that the other person did. You should hurt the person back by something that person how good you're doing and that the dumping did not affect in any negative way. The person will feel very jealous if you move on with your life. Let that person dump you! It's her own life, you have nothing to do with that. Do not mourn over that person. Tell your friend to remind himself of the bad qualities of that person and the wrong things she did. Tell your friend, that God removed that person from his life because God loves you and doesn't want you to be with a person that is wrong for you, that is not worth you. Well, bottom line is, Cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it. (: