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Why is it that when men pay women compliments, the women think they are after something E.g A couple are about to go out to dinner. Hubby says, honey, you look gorgeous. She smiles and says aah thanks.
He continues, and your hair really suits you like that, She says Mmmh, thanks.
He goes on your skin is glowing these days she starts to look at him suspiciously.
Have you lost some weight? he asks. OK, OK right, what do you want? She can not take it any more. Lol.
Anyone feel like this? Is one compliment enough?
If compliments are NOT a daily routine of the man, then it is only obvious to the woman, that he IS after something.
It's not an assumption, per se. But, it is a conclusion that he doesn't do it more often, and since he doesn't constantly do it, then he must be after something or another.
It only makes sense, logically and rationally.
ha ha, with that many compliments in a row, he obviously wants something.
Though I would argue the point on not being able to take it. I encourage my partner to keep on complimenting me.
If he's complimenting you that much, he IS after something! LOL!
more than one is fine with me...I have a hard time accepting compliments from my husband or anyone really because I have low self esteem.
Your a Fun person - Like your new Pet. (Avatar) lol
You only have a perception of low self esteem.......
and that's only because I caught you stealing the scotch....
otherwise you'd be prefect.
i think you're great! cute and funny and talented and no i don't want anything from you.
as for accepting compliments, i like it and never think anything is behind them. unless the guy is a know lotahrio. i feel sorry for the guy in the OP's scenario - he can't say anything to please his wife and the more he talks, the deeper-in he gets.
what woman hates a compliment? I am confused now. Is this pretend time? :
Lol. Its not so much hating it. It's not accepting it.
A popular one is e.g a lady is wearing a lovely dress and her other lady friend compliments her. She'd say, Oh, I just got it for £9.99 - some people tend to play it down. People deal with compliments in different ways.
Compiments used to be part of a traditional style: a man has to win a woman or her heart or at least her attention and disposition. And now we are equal partners, we are expected to behave like that to work equally for living or do business and do not waste time on stupid compliments to each other, it indeed looks quite suspicious and old fashioned and not necessary. Most of us have a different life style for that.
It's not just women, it's everyone. I've been reading a lot of business motivational books and not accepting compliments, or quickly giving one out in response, is one of the many reasons why so many people are broke or middle class.
Successful people gladly accept compliments because they know their worth.
It's not just a "female" problem.
i don't mind compliments. just when they're overdone!
and not meant from the heart!
As to the topic, political correctness has put an end to compliments, manners, proper etiquette and honesty, and has given rise to suspicion and accusation. We might have wanted something, maybe just a polite conversation, but who needs the hassle.
When a man compliments me, I always accept it, as long as a compliment is sincere. If not... beware my little bunny, dinner time soon
When a woman tells me a compliment, must admit I am confused, and a lot. I never say compliments to other women - I just state a fact, if asked.
Finally, "politics" put under shade of a compliment are simply disgusting.
I don't think I've gotten a compliment in about a month. So I treasure them.
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