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Why do some women find it hard to accept Compliments?

  1. Lady_E profile image83
    Lady_Eposted 7 years ago

    (Had to put it in blue, Forums doesn't show inverted commas.)


    Why is it that when men pay women compliments, the women think they are after something  E.g  A couple are about to go out to dinner. Hubby says, honey, you look gorgeous.  She smiles and says  aah thanks.
    He continues, and your hair really suits you like that, She says Mmmh, thanks.
    He goes on your skin is glowing these days she starts to look at him suspiciously.
    Have you lost some weight? he asks.  OK, OK right, what do you want? She can not take it any more.  Lol.

    Anyone feel like this? Is one compliment enough?

    1. Cagsil profile image59
      Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      If compliments are NOT a daily routine of the man, then it is only obvious to the woman, that he IS after something.

      It's not an assumption, per se. But, it is a conclusion that he doesn't do it more often, and since he doesn't constantly do it, then he must be after something or another.

      It only makes sense, logically and rationally.

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        Denno66posted 7 years agoin reply to this

        So your wife likes compliments, too? big_smile

        1. Cagsil profile image59
          Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          No married. So there tongue

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            Denno66posted 7 years agoin reply to this

            My point exactly. big_smile

            1. Cagsil profile image59
              Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

              But, I seem to have an understanding of women than most. So, I can always help out with advice.

              So there tongue

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                Denno66posted 7 years agoin reply to this

                Um, okay. lol

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      sandra rinckposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      ha ha, with that many compliments in a row, he obviously wants something. 

      Though I would argue the point on not being able to take it.  I encourage my partner to keep on complimenting me. wink

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    Poppa Bluesposted 7 years ago

    If he's complimenting you that much, he IS after something! LOL!

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    Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago

    more than one is fine with me...I have a hard time accepting compliments from my husband or anyone really because I have low self esteem.

    1. Lady_E profile image83
      Lady_Eposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Your a Fun person - Like your new Pet. (Avatar) lol

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        Crazdwriterposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        lol thanks he is a good boy... for the most part lol
        And thanks...I try to be a fun person lol

    2. readytoescape profile image60
      readytoescapeposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      You only have a perception of low self esteem.......

      and that's only because I caught you stealing the scotch....

      otherwise you'd be prefect.

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    cosetteposted 7 years ago

    really CL?

    i think you're great! cute and funny and talented and no i don't want anything from you.

    as for accepting compliments, i like it and never think anything is behind them. unless the guy is a know lotahrio. i feel sorry for the guy in the OP's scenario - he can't say anything to please his wife and the more he talks, the deeper-in he gets.

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      Crazdwriterposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      thanks cosette and yep really... but thanks for the compliments

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    Denno66posted 7 years ago

    I am a habitual complimenter. My wife doesn't seem to mind. big_smile

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    lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago

    what woman hates a compliment?  I am confused now. Is this pretend time? hmm:

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      Denno66posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      It seems like it. big_smile

    2. Lady_E profile image83
      Lady_Eposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Lol. Its not so much hating it. It's not accepting it.

      A popular one is e.g a lady is wearing a lovely dress and her other lady friend compliments her. She'd say, Oh, I just got it for £9.99 - some people tend to play it down.  People deal with compliments in different ways. smile

  7. Flightkeeper profile image72
    Flightkeeperposted 7 years ago

    I love compliments, especially if they're sincere!

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    Home Girlposted 7 years ago

    Compiments used to be part of a traditional style: a man has to win a woman or her heart or at least her attention and disposition. And now we are equal partners, we are expected to behave like that to work equally for living or do business and do not waste time on stupid compliments to each other, it indeed looks quite suspicious and old fashioned and not necessary. Most of us have a different life style for that.

    1. Lady_E profile image83
      Lady_Eposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Interesting...thanks, but if we bring kids into the equation, I think compliments are necessary - just my opinion. smile

  9. TimTurner profile image71
    TimTurnerposted 7 years ago

    It's not just women, it's everyone.  I've been reading a lot of business motivational books and not accepting compliments, or quickly giving one out in response, is one of the many reasons why so many people are broke or middle class.

    Successful people gladly accept compliments because they know their worth.

    It's not just a "female" problem.

  10. myownworld profile image80
    myownworldposted 7 years ago

    i don't mind compliments. just when they're overdone!
    and not meant from the heart! smile

  11. readytoescape profile image60
    readytoescapeposted 7 years ago

    As to the topic, political correctness has put an end to compliments, manners, proper etiquette and honesty, and has given rise to suspicion and accusation. We might have wanted something, maybe just a polite conversation, but who needs the hassle.

  12. Black Lilly profile image60
    Black Lillyposted 7 years ago

    When a man compliments me, I always accept it, as long as a compliment is sincere. If not... beware my little bunny, dinner time soon wink
    When a woman tells me a compliment, must admit I am confused, and a lot. I never say compliments to other women - I just state a fact, if asked.

    Finally, "politics" put under shade of a compliment are simply disgusting.

  13. Hanna Bambina profile image56
    Hanna Bambinaposted 7 years ago

    I don't think I've gotten a compliment in about a month. So I treasure them.

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      Denno66posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      You have a nice picture. big_smile

    2. Lady_E profile image83
      Lady_Eposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with Den's comments about your Pic.

      You are also talented and love to help people - I checked out your profile and Hubs.

      .... and I'm your latest fan. smile

  14. mayhmong profile image62
    mayhmongposted 7 years ago

    He just wants to get his hands in yo pants! Watch out!

 
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