Is it inappropriate to become friends with your x's new interest?
Yes, I would think so. And very uncomfortable for 1,2, or all 3 at some point.
I don't know why anyone would want to do it unless they are forced to because you have children with your ex. Even then it would not be "friends" so much as being cordial when around each other.
Generally speaking most friendships with an ex's current significant other involves a hidden agenda. Either their current mate wants to pump you for information or you haven't gotten over your ex and want to find a way to remain in their life socially or possibly hoping to get them back.
I don't really think "inappropriate" is the right word,(although maybe it is) because because being "on friendly terms" or "primarily being friendly" (and maybe even liking one another) aren't usually inappropriate (when compared to the alternatives). I do think, though, that becoming friends (beyond just liking each other and/or being friendly) is unwise for a number of reasons. The way I see it, the world is full of potential buddies/pals. There's really no reason to have to become close pals with someone's ex's new partner/interest.
There is no need to hold grudges. Life is too short. If things didn't work out & you honestly cared about your x, you should wish them nothing but the best & happiness. So why not be friends with your x and anyone that is Important to them.
I didn't mean to hold a grudge or not to wish them happiness. What I meant was hanging out with them and being a regular part of their social life. I think it's healthiest (and most caring) to let the new couple "just be new/start anew".
There's nothing inappropriate about that, but it certainly sounds potentially damaging to me. It would be different in my view if you would have been friend with your ex's new flame before they met. I agree there is no need to hold grudges, but to be all that close to each other, not too healthy by my standards. After all, if your ex became your ex, there is a reason. And how is he going to react, in time, at you being best buddies with his new girlfriend. Again, there's nothing wrong about it, but I personally would steer clear of such a situation. Best of luck to you
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