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Do you believe love is a choice?

  1. jenbeach21 profile image79
    jenbeach21posted 5 years ago

    Do you believe love is a choice?

  2. lburmaster profile image83
    lburmasterposted 5 years ago

    I believe love is an unconscious choice. Sometimes the part of us we don't know about knows best.

  3. beadreamer247 profile image70
    beadreamer247posted 5 years ago

    In first place it is not, but it also can be and will be at times. Hard to explain. First you meet someone and even though some people deny - but the first attraction is what we see from the outside. By nature we tend to feel attracted by what we see which leads us to the next step. When we are in love it just is the chemistry and other stuff that gets us there. But the "heaven" will soon be brought back on earth - and reality kicks in sooner or later. We will face habits and ticks of the other one that we are not too fond of. Here love turns into a choice. You have to choose if you can live with the habit or tick or not and make decisions accordingly to keep this love alive or not.

    1. jenbeach21 profile image79
      jenbeach21posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Great explanation. Thanks!

  4. Frank Atanacio profile image82
    Frank Atanacioposted 5 years ago

    I believe love is a choice..  that intense fondness you have toward another person  comes from  within..  you chose  to express it..  and as quickly as it comes.. it can leave.. and that too is a choice..smile  good question

  5. sunkentreasure profile image75
    sunkentreasureposted 5 years ago


    Just one hug

    can touch someone's heart

    Just one smile

    can change someone's day

    Just one flower

    can show you care

    Just one kindness

    can light the way

    Just one compliment

    can bring happiness

    Just one prayer

    can create a miracle

    Your love can make a difference.

    (C) Bernard Levine

    1. jenbeach21 profile image79
      jenbeach21posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      This is beautiful. Thanks for sharing!

    2. teaches12345 profile image94
      teaches12345posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I love the poem!  Says what love truly is.

  6. luciano63 profile image77
    luciano63posted 5 years ago

    No i don't! Love is something that happens when you do not even thing it could! I believe we cannot control it, even when we try we end up soffering....the other side of the medal is that we end up soffering when we get it! After the great beginning all problems arrive and we start soffering....c'est la vie!

  7. ajayshah2005 profile image56
    ajayshah2005posted 5 years ago

    No, love is not a choice. It happens. If choice is made then that is not a love.

  8. livhappy profile image60
    livhappyposted 5 years ago

    Love is an existing undeniable energy. Is the sun a choice? No, because it just is.

  9. jellygator profile image92
    jellygatorposted 5 years ago


    Although the word itself can refer to more than one meaning (an emotion or a choice), to remain loving a person must sometimes choose to behave in a way that helps their relationship instead of doing what only serves themselves. That's a loving choice, and without making these choices, love cannot endure.

  10. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    Yes it's a choice in my opinion. We choose our friends, our lovers, and our spouse. Everyone you have ever gotten involved with began with you saying (YES) when the opportunity came to exchange contact information, go out on a date, kiss, go out on addtional dates, have sex, trust and believe what they told you....etc
    I don't think it's possible to say (yes) 100 times and then claim that love "just happened" out of the blue! At the very least one has to admit they made a decision to give that person a "chance".
    Trust me if you said (NO) to every opportunity to exchange contact information, go out, kiss, have sex, or simply socialize period.... Odds are you are not going to fall in love! Every relationship began with you saying (YES) when you had a (choice) to say (NO).

  11. carolp profile image81
    carolpposted 5 years ago

    I believe love comes anytime, in any place, any moment in one's life. A person could feel it and i don't think it is a choice to love or don't love because it is a natural feeling one could not deny to feel it. Unless in any other circumstances you have the choice to make it come true, make it happen to be with the one you love or turn away.

  12. litsabd profile image74
    litsabdposted 5 years ago

    Everything we feel or decide are choices we make. If we have the ability and strength to give love then we can expect to feel love too. So, yes...to me all are choices...even the smallest ones!

  13. Beata Stasak profile image83
    Beata Stasakposted 5 years ago

    We choose to love or hate, forgive or hold grudges but sometimes we 'fall in love' and there is nothing we can do about it:) It is a gift of life, that make us to understand that there is more to life than conscious and rational decisions. Do not be afraid to loose your control to receive the gift of love, but never ever loose control over hate and spite:)

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    vonda g nelsonposted 5 years ago

    When you get first hand experience of that thing that you refer to as love.  You will have no need to ask or question because you will know as well as understand.  The experience is like none other, but you aught be careful as well as responsible with sharing your gift of "love".

  15. Pramesh Shrestha profile image62
    Pramesh Shresthaposted 5 years ago

    NO. Love is not choice. Attraction and Love does not happen in concious mind. It happens in unconcious state of mind. You are automatically attracted to opposite sex if they are attractive according to your terms..