Why do men dump women and vice versa ?

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  1. James-wolve profile image77
    James-wolveposted 5 years ago

    Why  do men dump women and vice versa ?

    Men love to fantasise.Fantasy requires sme mental space,sme distance from the object f fantasy.In the beginnin,a man doesnt know th wman so well,so he can imagine all kinds f possible delights.If the woman becomes 2 familiar 2 quickly,in the spirit of forging intimacy,she eliminates all of the mystery,squashes the distance needed for fantasy.man may not even be aware of wat hes missing,but his eyes ll son start to wander?to other women who present possibilities nd outlets for fantasies.He will either have an affair,or dump.Of course,with the next woman the mystery is likely to wear off as well


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    JThomp42posted 5 years ago

    If either party can do this scenario you have mentioned to one another, they were not meant to be together. You must have a solid foundation in a relationship to stay true to that person. That foundation is "Love".

    1. James-wolve profile image77
      James-wolveposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I definitely agree.Love is important in any successful  relationship and trust too.

    2. profile image0
      JThomp42posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you James.

  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    People dump one another for numerous reasons. Generally speaking one or both people reach the conclusion they do not want the same things or they would have a better life without their current partner. They're moving in opposite directions.
    There is no amount of "communication" or "work" that can overcome being with someone who does not want what you want.
    Many of our early breakups have to do with us not knowing ourselves or what we want/need from a mate. We're exploring life in numerous ways including relationships. Secondly we are too young to begin with when our emotions run high at ages 16, 17, 18, 21...etc Very few of those relationships will lead to a "Happy Ever After" scenario. We just don't have the maturity to know it at the time. In other instances we evolve overtime and our priorites change with regard to traits we want in an ideal mate. Last but not least one person commits a "deal breaker" in the other person's eyes which leads to a breakup.

    1. James-wolve profile image77
      James-wolveposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Very true.Thanks for the insight.

  4. nancymaggielee profile image70
    nancymaggieleeposted 5 years ago

    Please learn how to spell before you start writing online.  This is ridiculous.

    1. James-wolve profile image77
      James-wolveposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Oh Mis sorry ,I had to shorten the text to fit in ,because it has a limited words plus English is my third foreign language.Have a nice day.

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      Garifaliaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Jame-wolve is not illiterate. It seems he was in a hurry. Read the following and then see if you still agree with your comment:
      http://james-wolve.hubpages.com/hub/Hol … 6-millions

    3. James-wolve profile image77
      James-wolveposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I had many articles in my previous banned HP account.It is not allowed to republish them  here again.I m not here to earn money or t offend anyone.Just simply want t earn friends.I had an experience befor here.ain t gonna make the same mistakes again

    4. nancymaggielee profile image70
      nancymaggieleeposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Not that you will probably understand this, but misspelling of the English language by someone who is trying to instruct someone else to do something that they should be knowledgeable on, regardless of how many languages they know, drives me insane!

    5. James-wolve profile image77
      James-wolveposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Excuse my ignorance,I beg your pardon.I didn t know that my spelling was too bad to the extent of driving people insane.Thanks for the insight.

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    Garifaliaposted 5 years ago

    It is my conviction that people who are truly compatible or have the maturity to appreciate their partner with all his/her (minor) faults DO stay together. Many, however, are with someone out of sheer attraction (no other reason) and thus it wears off when he/she shows serious faults and others are with a particular person not because they really do care for or are really attracted to them but because they don't want to be alone. Under those circumstances 'dumping' is common and inevitable. Another group of people do not have the maturity to realise that the intial sparks will wear off sooner or later to be replaced by true deep love in the form of care, appreciation, trust etc.

    1. James-wolve profile image77
      James-wolveposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for the insight.I agree with you.I d like to add something else here but it s limited.I tried to shorten it by taking off  letters but it didnt work.Thanks again.

  6. brakel2 profile image79
    brakel2posted 5 years ago

    Men and women are so very different that it is hard to find a person you can love. Sometimes it takes a long time. Women are the romantics, and many men are more practical  The dumping word sounds like a terrible end to a relationship. If you want to use it I will give examples of real situations. Dumped for getting serious too fast, for unwillingness to have sex, not feeling good enough for the other person, playing a game in a relationship, not willing to commit to a relationship, too controlling, too immature for a real relationship, found someone else. controlling in-laws, and addictions. .

  7. Lady_E profile image67
    Lady_Eposted 5 years ago

    It could be (1) they get bored. (2) they are no longer attracted (3) extended family pressure.  Personally, I advise people to look at the heart when going into a serious relationship. If you fall in love with the personality (not the looks / the make up / the 6 pack) then your relationship will be strong and can survive any hurdles.

    Sadly, these days men look at the physical attributes and once the woman has had a baby, body changed - they are looking for another "new" model. I guess some women also do, once the "6 pack" turns into a beer belly.

    Sorry, hope my comment isn't harsh. Just saying it as it is.
    Best wishes. :-)

    1. James-wolve profile image77
      James-wolveposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      No no ,It is not harsh at all.I agree with you.Men should look at what lies inside.It s the real beauty.The outward show is wearing off with time.

  8. stricktlydating profile image83
    stricktlydatingposted 5 years ago

    It's generally because the dumper wants something else.  Or Someone else.  Or the person they have dumped has hurt or betrayed them.

    1. James-wolve profile image77
      James-wolveposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      This is brief and direct to the point.Thanks for the insight.


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