Whats the most important thing a woman sees attractive in a man, is it always to

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   greenchaposted 11 years ago

   Whats the most important thing a woman sees attractive in a man, is it always to do with the visual.
   
   What's the first thing a woman looks for  in a man?-Is it money,large bi-ceps,big ego,
   or  a sense of humour, and interesting to talk to, a nice smile,caring?

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   lburmasterposted 11 years ago

   The most important thing I notice overall is personality. He must have my sense of humor and be a hard worker. There are more specifics, but I'll just sound picky. Just by a glance? It's how he looks. Instantly, I've already come up with an idea about him.

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      greenchaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks,Iburmaster, But  if you have already formed that Idea in an instant  ,doesnt that cancel out your chance to find out about his personality?. Re-maybe a premature decision. ,

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      lburmasterposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Not at all. Theories were created to be answers. But they are always replaced when new evidence comes to life. Being around someone is a theory in progress. Will you get along? Are they easily happy? Are they on depressants? What do they enjoy?

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   duffsmomposted 11 years ago

   Looks certainly can cause a woman to look at a particular man but if there is no substance to follow it up - she won't look twice.
   
   I am attracted to personality as Iburmaster says.  Funny, kind, compassionate. When a man is thoughtful and kind, it really is totally attractive and compelling.

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      greenchaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks duffsmom, substance etc-as you say is important. Do you think a man should use those same parameters? Or would you expect it be wise for a man to use those same parameters?

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   lupineposted 11 years ago

   It depends on the woman. There are those that choose men for great looks, money, nice car, etc., but those relationships end in an instant when any of these things are no longer available or become boring. Personally, those are not my priorities...more importantly, he should be someone I can count on, and have respect for, and he respect me. The body type is not so important. Also, he should be kind, understanding, good sense of humor, have a nice smile, have common interests, drink only occasionally, not smoke, and not be the jealous type.

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      Little Grandmommyposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with answer wholeheartedly.

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      lupineposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks! Little Grandmommy.

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      greenchaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks lupine,more excellent points. Would you think it wise for a man
      to generally use same parameters.

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      lupineposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Greencha- Yes, a man would be wise to also use these parameters.

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      greenchaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Well, that all sounds reasonable and sensible,thanks. lupine,

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   cat on a soapboxposted 11 years ago

   Our first impressions are often based on physical attributes. I am attracted to tall men because I am tall myself, but it is confidence and kindness that stand out. After I've had the chance to converse, I like intelligence w/o attitude and a fun (not sarcastic) sense of humor. The next step is to discover his work ethic, job status, his familial relationships,  and morals. This last step is most important..

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      greenchaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks cat on a soap box...

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   jennshealthstoreposted 11 years ago

   We are all human and we all know when we see an attractive person standing in front of us. We may be physically attracted to a person by just looking at them, but it is when we get to know a person we feel real attraction to a person. When we are attracted to a person on the inside, then the outside becomes that much more beautiful.

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      greenchaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      here here, thanks jennshealthstore

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   Jennifer Lynchposted 11 years ago

   The fact that he keeps his eyes on your and not on other women who may be around.  If you sense that he is a flirt, that is not very attractive!

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      Jennifer Lynchposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I meant on you.

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      greenchaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks Jennifer ,Its not nice when that happens either way,but some women can do that also to the bloke, ,,

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   Agnes Pennposted 11 years ago

   I agree with lupine that it depends on the woman: if a woman is interested only in the way a man looks, then the next guy that comes along might steal her attention; if she is self-assured and happy with who she is, more than likely she will want a man that "walks the talk", a man with depth and one she can rely on to fight along side her.
   Personally, if a man has a real thirst for the truth and does not accept things in order to be accepted by the "in" group his words will stand out in my mind and this will draw me to want to know him better... but a nice smile always helps

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      lupineposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks, Agnes Penn...for agreeing with me. We can't help what we first see, but we see more than just the outside cover as we get to know the person...that's when we really know if there is an attraction.

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      greenchaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Interesting ,thanks Agnes Penn

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   Theophanesposted 11 years ago

   STABILITY - Not just in the financial sense but also emotional and intellectual. Even if you're the cutest/hottest guy on the planet a woman isn't going to look at you twice if you're loitering outside the welfare office puffing a cigarette and ignoring the three bastard children you sired that are currently biting the ankles of strangers.

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      cat on a soapboxposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      haha-  a very good point!!

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      lupineposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You got that right!

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      greenchaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for comment Theophanes,Doesn't that go without saying tho;,also the same goes for  some blokes also..I mean ,thats not necessarily gender orientated/specific , IS IT? Regards..

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    lisasuniquevoiceposted 11 years ago

    As women we can't help what we see when we look at a man. If he's got it going on then we're going to keep looking and maybe even take it farther than that. We might even ask him out for coffee.
    Lisa

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       lupineposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Right lisasuniquevoice...that great look won't be able to stand alone...he has to have more than that to take it further, or for it to last.

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       greenchaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Thanks lisasuniquenoice, thats a good point ,and progressive , good to know some women are not scared of making first approach re-dating.

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    AlyssaLashownposted 11 years ago

    Depends on the woman. Some go solely for physical attraction and others become physically attracted as they get to know him. In my case its the latter. When I first met this guy, he wasn't that attractive to me but there was something about him that caught my eye and I couldn't quite put my finger on it. Well, it's been about a month and he is very funny, intelligent, witty, kind, caring, and strong. He doesn't smoke, or drink and he works very hard to achieve his goals. The more we talk, and the more I see him.. the more beautiful he becomes. He's open, accepting, and very down- to- earth, and talented, respectful and respectable. He's adorable.. not to mention he is very tall, not athletically built but not over weight, dark hair, green eyes, full lips, and a smile to die for.

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