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Does love and hate come hand in hand?

  1. Dkyde profile image58
    Dkydeposted 7 years ago

    Do you have to hate someone to love them?

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      sandra rinckposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Don't know, do you hate to love and love to hate? 

      I hate hate and love love. ?????

      1. Sean Leong profile image77
        Sean Leongposted 7 years ago in reply to this


    2. rebekahELLE profile image88
      rebekahELLEposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      to love someone, you must accept their faults.. part of the package.

      sometimes it may feel like a love/hate relationship, but I believe it's more a behavior or feeling we love or hate, not the person.   

      hate is intense. I think of a murderer or someone totally over the edge, not the average human.
      my 2 cents.

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      reeltaulkposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      what???  How can you find love through hate....that sounds so twisted.  You can have a strong love for someone and they don't appreciate it as well as treat you bad!  NOW i can see you starting to hate them because of that.  That is very easy to do, in certain circumstances

      Vonda G. Nelson

    4. Cagsil profile image60
      Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this


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      Poppa Bluesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      No, but you have to know hate in order to love and vice versa, otherwise love would be nothing special, just simple day to day existence. We celebrate love because we know the darkness of hate, like we celebrate the sun because we know darkness and rain. Each is needed for balance and so that we know and appreciate the other.

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      cosetteposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      um, no.

    7. The Rope profile image60
      The Ropeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I have loved someone so much that it hurt to realize the intensity (fortunately it was returned ten-fold) but hate was never an emotion that even tipped it's ugly head.  I've heard the expression but can't fathom it.  Sorry.

    8. EnglishRose profile image54
      EnglishRoseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      They say that their is a fine line between love and hate, love and hate are 2 of the most powerful human emotions that can both cause so much pain, and 1 can turn into the other, But you cannot love and hate someone at the same time.

      1. utu profile image54
        utuposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Dunno nothings impossible.

  2. Lisa HW profile image82
    Lisa HWposted 7 years ago

    Not if you're normal.  There's love, and there's hate.  It's that simple.  Anything that mixes the two has something "off" about it.

  3. helot profile image56
    helotposted 7 years ago

    Only if you love to hate.

    1. aefrancisco profile image69
      aefranciscoposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I agree...

  4. caranoelle profile image84
    caranoelleposted 7 years ago

    I think that both love and hate are extreme emotions.  They lay on opposite ends of the spectrum, yet they are so severe, that I think that they can be confused, if that makes sense.

    1. theageofcake profile image65
      theageofcakeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I think this is a fair assessment.

  5. caravalhophoto profile image58
    caravalhophotoposted 7 years ago

    It's that fine line...

    1. Lisa HW profile image82
      Lisa HWposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I've never seen any fine line at all.  You can be angry at someone you love, and you can even sometimes feel a little compassion or sympathy for someone you hate (like if you really hate them but their mother dies, or something like that) - but I find that love is at one end of the scale, and hate is at the other.  To me, love can even run off the end of the scale; while hate just meets a "dead end" and turns to "dead-loathing".

      To me, if there's a "fine-line" factor it means either that the love isn't whole and real, or that the hate isn't really hate.  A good test is to ask yourself whether you wish something like brain cancer on someone. If you do, that's hate.  If you don't, it isn't hate.  lol

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    abiscardiposted 7 years ago

    I love someone so much that I hate him for it.  smile

  7. sensu0s profile image57
    sensu0sposted 7 years ago

    Well, where there's love there are complains. Where there are complains there are arguments. Where there are arguments there are fights. where there are fight there are hatred till the fights last. where there is excessive hatred there is guilt. where there is guilt there are strings of heartily apologies. where there are apologies there is forgiveness. Forgiveness leads to more and deeper LOVE!!!

    So its a cycle which goes on and on like this tongue

    1. Lisa HW profile image82
      Lisa HWposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I'd have to disagree.  There's anger, and there's hatred.  They're two very different things.

  8. Wendi M profile image80
    Wendi Mposted 7 years ago

    Love and hate are very close!

  9. Justine T profile image56
    Justine Tposted 7 years ago

    I do belive so because with out hate there wouldent be love... with out want there wouldent be joy.... so if you fight with someone you care about"the hate" an in the end can still say you would want them to be there the next day or for the rest because its just someting that happends you know that there that its love"the good" ~good -bad" ~love - Hate"

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    lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago


  11. RecoverToday profile image86
    RecoverTodayposted 7 years ago

    Why would you need to hate a person to love them?

  12. 1woman profile image56
    1womanposted 7 years ago

    The opposite of love is not hate...it is indifference

    1. Sean Leong profile image77
      Sean Leongposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      If things were to turn sour, the deeper the love, the deeper would be the hate for some people.

  13. ddsurfsca profile image72
    ddsurfscaposted 7 years ago

    In several american indian tribes, cherokee being one of them, the same word is used for love and hate, and what it means literally is passion.

  14. currentevent profile image53
    currenteventposted 7 years ago

    i really do think people should say what they mean.

    1. utu profile image54
      utuposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Some people you just Love to Hate smile

  15. Run Down Battery profile image55
    Run Down Batteryposted 7 years ago

    I don't agree... Indifference is the ultimate insult. I'd rather be hated than loved, at least there is still some degree of emotion involved, at least the other person still acknowledges that I exist!

    1. utu profile image54
      utuposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I have an alter ego that loves to be hated, well I guess I am saying that I agree being loved is means you have got to people, in a nice way  being hated, means that you are really getting to them ergo, you are successful at being an annoyance lol smile

  16. arod21 profile image54
    arod21posted 7 years ago

    "You are my greatest joy, and so you are my worst sorrow.

    Something for which I Love and hate you for."

    - AR

    I wrote that a long time ago, and it still rings true today; for you to Love someone completely (& vice versa) you must engulf yourself completely in that person's essence. You'll then find the good and bad within them, feeling both extremes of feeling, but when all settles, if you're still with said person and you've both learned to Love every part of each-other, there's nothing left to hide; and all that's left is Love, True Love.

  17. yenajeon profile image81
    yenajeonposted 7 years ago

    It shouldn't be true but me and my significant other fight so intensely sometimes I wonder if it is indeed true.