Does love and hate come hand in hand?

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  1. Dkyde profile image60
    Dkydeposted 13 years ago

    Do you have to hate someone to love them?

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      sandra rinckposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Don't know, do you hate to love and love to hate? 

      I hate hate and love love. ?????

      1. Sean Leong profile image63
        Sean Leongposted 13 years agoin reply to this


    2. rebekahELLE profile image86
      rebekahELLEposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      to love someone, you must accept their faults.. part of the package.

      sometimes it may feel like a love/hate relationship, but I believe it's more a behavior or feeling we love or hate, not the person.   

      hate is intense. I think of a murderer or someone totally over the edge, not the average human.
      my 2 cents.

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      reeltaulkposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      what???  How can you find love through hate....that sounds so twisted.  You can have a strong love for someone and they don't appreciate it as well as treat you bad!  NOW i can see you starting to hate them because of that.  That is very easy to do, in certain circumstances

      Vonda G. Nelson

    4. Cagsil profile image72
      Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this


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      Poppa Bluesposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      No, but you have to know hate in order to love and vice versa, otherwise love would be nothing special, just simple day to day existence. We celebrate love because we know the darkness of hate, like we celebrate the sun because we know darkness and rain. Each is needed for balance and so that we know and appreciate the other.

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      cosetteposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      um, no.

    7. The Rope profile image59
      The Ropeposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I have loved someone so much that it hurt to realize the intensity (fortunately it was returned ten-fold) but hate was never an emotion that even tipped it's ugly head.  I've heard the expression but can't fathom it.  Sorry.

    8. EnglishRose profile image55
      EnglishRoseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      They say that their is a fine line between love and hate, love and hate are 2 of the most powerful human emotions that can both cause so much pain, and 1 can turn into the other, But you cannot love and hate someone at the same time.

      1. utu profile image58
        utuposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        Dunno nothings impossible.

  2. Lisa HW profile image63
    Lisa HWposted 13 years ago

    Not if you're normal.  There's love, and there's hate.  It's that simple.  Anything that mixes the two has something "off" about it.

  3. helot profile image58
    helotposted 13 years ago

    Only if you love to hate.

    1. aefrancisco profile image59
      aefranciscoposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I agree...

  4. caranoelle profile image81
    caranoelleposted 13 years ago

    I think that both love and hate are extreme emotions.  They lay on opposite ends of the spectrum, yet they are so severe, that I think that they can be confused, if that makes sense.

    1. theageofcake profile image61
      theageofcakeposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I think this is a fair assessment.

  5. caravalhophoto profile image60
    caravalhophotoposted 13 years ago

    It's that fine line...

    1. Lisa HW profile image63
      Lisa HWposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I've never seen any fine line at all.  You can be angry at someone you love, and you can even sometimes feel a little compassion or sympathy for someone you hate (like if you really hate them but their mother dies, or something like that) - but I find that love is at one end of the scale, and hate is at the other.  To me, love can even run off the end of the scale; while hate just meets a "dead end" and turns to "dead-loathing".

      To me, if there's a "fine-line" factor it means either that the love isn't whole and real, or that the hate isn't really hate.  A good test is to ask yourself whether you wish something like brain cancer on someone. If you do, that's hate.  If you don't, it isn't hate.  lol

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    abiscardiposted 13 years ago

    I love someone so much that I hate him for it.  smile

  7. sensu0s profile image65
    sensu0sposted 13 years ago

    Well, where there's love there are complains. Where there are complains there are arguments. Where there are arguments there are fights. where there are fight there are hatred till the fights last. where there is excessive hatred there is guilt. where there is guilt there are strings of heartily apologies. where there are apologies there is forgiveness. Forgiveness leads to more and deeper LOVE!!!

    So its a cycle which goes on and on like this tongue

    1. Lisa HW profile image63
      Lisa HWposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I'd have to disagree.  There's anger, and there's hatred.  They're two very different things.

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    Wendi Mposted 13 years ago

    Love and hate are very close!

  9. Justine T profile image59
    Justine Tposted 13 years ago

    I do belive so because with out hate there wouldent be love... with out want there wouldent be joy.... so if you fight with someone you care about"the hate" an in the end can still say you would want them to be there the next day or for the rest because its just someting that happends you know that there that its love"the good" ~good -bad" ~love - Hate"

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    lyricsingrayposted 13 years ago


  11. RecoverToday profile image75
    RecoverTodayposted 13 years ago

    Why would you need to hate a person to love them?

  12. 1woman profile image60
    1womanposted 13 years ago

    The opposite of love is not is indifference

    1. Sean Leong profile image63
      Sean Leongposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      If things were to turn sour, the deeper the love, the deeper would be the hate for some people.

  13. ddsurfsca profile image72
    ddsurfscaposted 13 years ago

    In several american indian tribes, cherokee being one of them, the same word is used for love and hate, and what it means literally is passion.

  14. currentevent profile image59
    currenteventposted 13 years ago

    i really do think people should say what they mean.

    1. utu profile image58
      utuposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Some people you just Love to Hate smile

  15. Run Down Battery profile image61
    Run Down Batteryposted 13 years ago

    I don't agree... Indifference is the ultimate insult. I'd rather be hated than loved, at least there is still some degree of emotion involved, at least the other person still acknowledges that I exist!

    1. utu profile image58
      utuposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I have an alter ego that loves to be hated, well I guess I am saying that I agree being loved is means you have got to people, in a nice way  being hated, means that you are really getting to them ergo, you are successful at being an annoyance lol smile

  16. arod21 profile image57
    arod21posted 13 years ago

    "You are my greatest joy, and so you are my worst sorrow.

    Something for which I Love and hate you for."

    - AR

    I wrote that a long time ago, and it still rings true today; for you to Love someone completely (& vice versa) you must engulf yourself completely in that person's essence. You'll then find the good and bad within them, feeling both extremes of feeling, but when all settles, if you're still with said person and you've both learned to Love every part of each-other, there's nothing left to hide; and all that's left is Love, True Love.

  17. yenajeon profile image71
    yenajeonposted 13 years ago

    It shouldn't be true but me and my significant other fight so intensely sometimes I wonder if it is indeed true.


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