How can I improve my dating life?
I havent dated in a long time, Im in my 20s and nothing seems to work. Please dont say "trying a dating site"....been there, done that many a time. Any suggestions tips are greatly appreciated!
Why do you think "nothing" seems to work?
The only person you can control is you. Therefore if you are unhappy with the results you have been getting then there is something (you) need to change.
"If you want something different you have to do something different."
As for online dating it's a great (tool) for meeting other people. However too often when people have bad dating experiences they blame online dating. That's equivalent to an overweight person blaming a fork!
Each of us gets to (choose) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.
If you go to the store to purchase an apple but buy an onion instead....whose fault is that? Do you curse the onion for not being an apple? No! You learn to become a better shopper!
My advice to you is to do some serious introspective thinking about choices you have made in the past with regard to dating. Online dating is just one tool but if you decide to use it make sure you avoid the (free) or low cost sites. Research the best ones based upon the type of person you want to meet.
Secondly you might consider joining a group on meetup.com (This is not a dating site) It's an international site where numerous people form groups based upon common interest. (hiking, skydiving, wine tasting, meditation, yoga, dancing, book clubs...etc) Just about anything you can think of there is a group. A lot of these people are single and if you click with someone at least you will start off having something in common. There's not enough space to make too many suggestions here. You may wish to read my book:
My Cat Won't Bark! (A Relationship Epiphany)
Best of luck!
Dating sites, at least the ones Ive been on havent brought me anything worthwhile and no, Im not blaming the site. Seems like all the places I go to or at, I just seem to meet unavailable women. So I guess my question is, how do I stop that??
Time and space won't allow you to explain your online experiences. However we know those women were "available". I suspect there are lots of places where singles meet in your town as well. You probably need to change your approach & expectations.
Oh yes, plenty of single women on there, yes. Very few them serious, along with a laundry list of why I couldnt hit it off...not even with one of them. I think maybe I do need to change my expectations because I felt like its just been an endless cyc
Every "serious relationship" I have had began as a "casual relationship" and (evolved) into something serious. Your focus initially should be to have FUN. Chemistry & mutual interests will take it from there. Coming off too serious can be a turn
@dashing...Totally understandable...Im looking for friends in general to get to know, go out with etc.,...but I feel its a bit hard to ask people out and I feel Im more discouraged from doing so...I got way too many excuses. I prefer being invitedout
The more people you meet, the more opportunities you will have to ask someone out, those who dare win
You meet people everyday, in the grocery store, in the library, in a restaurant.
Talk to them, you might find that you have something in common and hit it off.
I am not one for the online dating and feel if you want to date go out with certain groups which you are happy with. Europe dating is different groups get together and go out to clubs and with the many girls and boys in a group something is bound to happen. Meeting people through good friends is a great idea, functions with your age group can also be helpful. Something will work you are still at a perfect age. When going to night clubs don't go there with one thing on your mind think of it as just a nite out and you will be surprised to meet someone who has an interest in you. If you have families get together and meet different friends from their ties.
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