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How can I improve my dating life?

  1. american13 profile image77
    american13posted 4 years ago

    How can I improve my dating life?

    I havent dated in a long time, Im in my 20s and nothing seems to work. Please dont say "trying a dating site"....been there, done that many a time. Any suggestions tips are greatly appreciated!

  2. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    Why do you think "nothing" seems to work?
    The only person you can control is you. Therefore if you are unhappy with the results you have been getting then there is something (you) need to change.
    "If you want something different you have to do something different."
    As for online dating it's a great (tool) for meeting other people. However too often when people have bad dating experiences they blame online dating. That's equivalent to an overweight person blaming a fork!
    Each of us gets to (choose) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.
    If you go to the store to purchase an apple but buy an onion instead....whose fault is that? Do you curse the onion for not being an apple? No! You learn to become a better shopper!
    My advice to you is to do some serious introspective thinking about choices you have made in the past with regard to dating. Online dating is just one tool but if you decide to use it make sure you avoid the (free) or low cost sites. Research the best ones based upon the type of person you want to meet.
    Secondly you might consider joining a group on meetup.com (This is not a dating site) It's an international site where numerous people form groups based upon common interest. (hiking, skydiving, wine tasting, meditation, yoga, dancing, book clubs...etc) Just about anything you can think of there is a group. A lot of these people are single and if you click with someone at least you will start off having something in common. There's not enough space to make too many suggestions here. You may wish to read my book:
    My Cat Won't Bark! (A Relationship Epiphany)
    Best of luck!

    1. american13 profile image77
      american13posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Dating sites, at least the ones Ive been on havent brought me anything worthwhile and no, Im not blaming the site. Seems like all the places I go to or at, I just seem to meet unavailable women. So I guess my question  is, how do I stop that??

    2. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Time and space won't allow you to explain your online experiences. However we know those women were "available". I suspect there are lots of places where singles meet in your town as well. You probably need to change your approach & expectations.

    3. american13 profile image77
      american13posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Oh yes, plenty of single women on there, yes. Very few them serious, along with a laundry list of why I couldnt hit it off...not even with one of them. I think maybe I do need to change my expectations because I felt like its just been an endless cyc

    4. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Every "serious relationship" I have had began as a "casual relationship" and (evolved) into something serious. Your focus initially should be to have FUN. Chemistry & mutual interests will take it from there. Coming off too serious can be a turn

    5. american13 profile image77
      american13posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      @dashing...Totally understandable...Im looking for friends in general to get to know, go out with etc.,...but I feel its a bit hard to ask people out and I feel Im more discouraged from doing so...I got way too many excuses. I prefer being invitedout

  3. ketage profile image82
    ketageposted 4 years ago

    The more people you meet, the more opportunities you will have to ask someone out, those who dare win smile
    You meet people everyday, in the grocery store, in the library, in a restaurant.
    Talk to them, you might find that you have something in common and hit it off.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      "The more people you meet, the more opportunities you will have to ask someone out." Very true! It really is a "numbers game".

  4. DDE profile image27
    DDEposted 4 years ago

    I am not one  for the online dating and feel if you want to date go out with certain groups  which you are happy with. Europe dating is different groups get together and go out to clubs and with the many girls and boys in a group something is bound to happen. Meeting people through good friends is a great idea,  functions with your age group can also be  helpful.  Something will work you are still at a perfect age. When going to night clubs don't go there with one thing on your mind think of it as just  a nite out and you will be surprised to meet someone who has an interest in you. If you have families get together and meet different friends  from their ties.

    1. american13 profile image77
      american13posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I dont like online dating at all...I tried it for years with no real success. Im all for meeting friends through friends....the problem is in my case, I barely have friends where I live. Most of my friends live in other countries.

 
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