People have different preferences, desires and needs. Based on those things, we choose whom we must love. Well, may be sometimes we do not really choose who to love; then it is called falling in love. Often, we grow in love. When we grow in love, we have made a choice of who to love. We should not confuse attraction with love. Often we get attracted to people, but if we were to choose, we choose based not on outward appearance but on personal characteristics, more like the heart being of a person.
A good lover is the one person whom I have this warm feeling towards. Their presence excites me and I cannot stop thinking about them. I think often that it would be great to spend the rest of my life in their company. I am not only attracted to them outwardly, I want to know more about them, I want to help them and I feel that their happiness and security are, to some extent, my responsibility. That makes for a good lover....that depends on who I am.
For others, a good lover would be someone who stands up to everybody, watches over them like a vulture and loves vulgarity. One loves the gentle types, another the aggressive, we cannot put them all in the same box. Each one his own.
So Donna, could one condense your answer into this: "The one you love the most is the one you feel "at one with."" In other words, you feel for each other, you share everything 50/50, suffering, joy, losses and gains? Every part of your lives?
I think good lovers are understanding.
That's the only important thing.
Someone that will complete you as you take the journey called life
A good lover is who has a kind heart and who believes in forgiving without ever letting a chance for argument or resentment in his world of love. Making a home for his love in his heart in place of a home of grudges and bitterness is the true definition of a good lover. Besides he stores magic for her and who understands the path of love and who is unstoppable giving his life for the sake of his love is perhaps a true lover.
Never leave you when your financial condition is bad, when everyone against you.
To me, a good lover is one who will accept me for what I am.
By 'lover' do you mean someone physically 'in tune' with you, or linked emotionally?
In my book a good lover enjoys being with you physically, someone who doesn't need to be told your needs - she/he excites you by being near,by touching you, and knows how to pleasure you without draining you emotionally. She/he might not necessarily even be your spouse.
One who is faithful, kind, tender, understanding, strong, supportive, communicates, listens to you, believes in God and loves you above all others.
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