What is conditional versus unconditional love?

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   hulah cagenposted 12 years ago

   What is conditional versus unconditional love?

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   Most people have "deal breakers" when it comes to relationships which means the majority of time there is no such thing as "unconditional love". Deal breakers are "conditions" (If you cheat it's over, verbal abuse it's over, no sex it's over, or if you hit me it's over...etc) Just about everyone has their boundaries/deal breakers. In fact those who don't usually have low self-esteem or no self love.
   Unconditional love means there is NOTHING this person could say or do that would cause you to walk away. Two very common examples of "unconditional love" often cited are God's love for mankind and a parent's love for a child.

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   Dr Pran Ranganposted 12 years ago

   Unconditional love is to love someone without any expectation of return of anything, including love. Conditional love is based on the expectation of return of something. It is rare to find someone who gives unconditional love to someone. We all love others  with an expectation of something in return. Love has become a commodity these days.
   
   Some parents love their children unconditionally but it is again rare to find such parents. Just to have the expectation that our children should do what we want them to do is also a condition. Our conditions should not become an obstacle in their all round good growth. The conditions should not become the limiting factor for them but they should act as good guidelines to lead a virtuous life.
   
   Only God loves all of us unconditionally. In spite of our repeated wrong deeds, He never stops loving us. He even equally loves the most dangerous of criminals.

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   hulah cagenposted 12 years ago

   Thank you for your insightful comments about this topic. Yes unconditional love from a human perspective it would seem to need a free willed decision to do certain amount of disciplined spiritual as well as selfless work and is harder to achieve.

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