How can father's express their love for their children so that there is no doubt

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   sallybeaposted 10 years ago

   How can father's express their love for their children so that there is no doubting their love?
   
   It is fathers day tomorrow.   Loving deeds underscore what fathers can do for their children.  These things will truly impact on them for their entire lives.
   
   

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   Since it's "Father's Day" shouldn't it be about the children (honoring) their father and finding ways to express (their) love and appreciation for him?
   I would not expect "Mother's Day" to be about mothers finding ways to show their children they love them by doing "loving deeds".
   Both "Mother's Day" and "Father's Day" are about the children (honoring) their parents! One man's opinion! :-)

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      sallybeaposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Yes definitely it should be but there may be a lot of children out there who may not feel that they wish to honor their father on father's day. Unfortunately the world in not a perfect place, some fathers need to sow the seeds for good relationships.

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      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      sallybea, I agree there may be children who don't (wish) to honor their father or mother on these "Hallmark" holidays. Buying cards, gifts, or  going to Sunday brunch are not required if they don't want to. Young kids aren't expected to do much.

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   duffsmomposted 10 years ago

   I think there absolutely is. Fathers (and mothers) do things on a daily basis that express their love--feed, clothe, support. But kids also need to be told and my husband tells our kids he loves them daily.  They may call for advice, or just to chat, or they call some help with something, or to just check on one of us to see how we are feeling--their dad is always there, always willing to help but...he also voices his love for them.  Same for our grandchildren.

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      sallybeaposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with you duffsmom but i also think I phrased the question incorrectly.  I think I really want for father's to express their love and also follow through with actions.  There are too many single parents who will dread father's day today.

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   Lisa HWposted 10 years ago

   The best way for anyone to express love for someone else is to treat that other person with kindness and respect, and recognize that children need understanding.   Showing the other person that they're valued by listening to what he has to say, and spending time talking with them, is important.  So is letting the other person know one enjoys the time shared between them; and making that time enjoyable for the other with warmth and laughter and a sense of trust - not distance and a sense of "superiority".
   
   The relationship between fathers and children is no different.   The points above are the foundation on which a relationship grows stronger, rather than weaker or more distant; and it's the back-drop against which everything else that goes on in the relationship should be addressed and/or viewed.

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      sallybeaposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Very well put Lisa HW - I don't think I could have said it any better.  Thank you for your input, it is much appreciated.

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