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Can a marriage survive betrayal?

  1. jabelufiroz profile image70
    jabelufirozposted 4 years ago

    Can a marriage survive betrayal?

  2. jpcmc profile image88
    jpcmcposted 4 years ago

    I've seen couples who have gone through such a dismal situation.  Although many part ways, there are still those who work things out and remain together.  If both parties are willing to make their relationship work, then I believe this is still possible.

  3. janshares profile image97
    jansharesposted 4 years ago

    Sometimes but it's very difficult, especially if it's infidelity. It takes time and hard work to rebuild new trust once it's broken.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    Yes. It happens all of the time. Some people simply do not believe in divorce no matter what happens. Others have gone through therapy as a couple have come out stronger for it. Some betrayed people have found a way to forgive if they believe in their heart that their neglect in the relationship may have contributed to their mate seeking other options.
    Generally speaking what happens for couples that survive is the cheater (sincerely) regrets her or his actions, the hurt party remains "in love", and neither spouse wants to get divorce. They start working on building up trust between them and take one day at a time.
    Having said that sometimes the betrayed party (instantly forgives) simply because the thought of being cheated on and going through a divorce is too much for them to handle.
    Later on after stating they forgive they realize that they can't even if the cheater is bending over backwards to make amends. This is why it's important that the hurt person (take a break) to decide if they can in fact forgive. The only way to forgive someone is to NOT dwell on what they did wrong but instead focus on the things you love about them. If every time you see a person you think about them cheating on you then you will never move past it.

  5. DDE profile image25
    DDEposted 4 years ago

    No I don't believe a marriage can survive betrayal, trus tis lost and in many cases trust is never regained

  6. Nicole Danielle profile image65
    Nicole Danielleposted 4 years ago

    I think it all depends on the couple really. Some people are more forgiving while others will be done in the relationship right away. Also depends if the betrayer is sincerely sorry for their actions and regrets them. Although then trust issues could also come into play. The phrase "If they did it once, they'll do it again" comes to mind. (Although that is obviously not always the case in every relationship). It's a matter of forgiveness and genuine regret (also if they learned from their actions) as well as if both parties are willing to make it work.