How do you deal with "feeling disliked by others?"

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   american13posted 12 years ago

   How do you deal with "feeling disliked by others?"
   
   I just feel like people instantly do not like me at times and I have zero luck with females.

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   Dr Pran Ranganposted 12 years ago

   Different persons have different ways of dealing with the feeling of being disliked by others.
   
   I believe that all of us basically are good persons. But we all have grown up differently and that is why we have different belief systems. We like or dislike  a thing or a person from the perspective of our belief systems. So if some one does not like me, it only means that he or she is judging me from his or her perspective. It does not mean that I am not a likeable person. With this attitude, I don't bother if someone doesn't like me. But at the same I behave normally with that person whenever I interact with him or her. I don't show that I don't like his or her dislike of me.
   
   Over a period of time, in most of instances that person changes his or her opinion about me.

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   DDEposted 12 years ago

   I  ignore such people it is no sense in making an issue about it, you can't always be liked by everyone, and I would feel exactly the opposite  of someone liking me.

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   Anjiliposted 12 years ago

   First accept the situation as it is. Try to love yourself. Express your love to them in order to neutralize their hatred towards you. Work towards boosting your self-esteem by concentrating on what you like best, to produce your uppermost virtues.
   
   Do not try too hard to please. Because you are special. Get higher education to uplift your general perspective towards life and general well being, feelings and social status. Improve on your attire, change your wardrobe to a classy level.
   
   Develop a tendency to positively absorb other people's opinion towards you, no matter how negative, and often joke about yourself because we shall soon fade off.
   Remember, life is short and some people have to be ignored at times if you have to keep moving on.

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   Angela Jeterposted 12 years ago

   I accept it and just cut them out of my life, as quickly as possible. FOREVER!

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   Keep things in perspective. There is no one who has ever walked the earth that was loved by every single person. Move on with your life.
   With regard to your difficulty meeting/dating women there could be a variety of reasons. You may be pursuing women who are not into "your type" or they don't believe they have much in common with you.
   There is an international site called meetup.com which has tons of groups. This is not a dating site but they do have some "single groups" on there. You might start off by focusing on joining groups that have similar interest as yourself. There are groups for everything from wine tasting, yoga, meditation, writing, hiking, dancing, book clubs...etc In a situation like this you would take your time getting to know people at the various meetings and simply socialize with no design on dating anyone. This takes the pressure off of yourself and since you are with like minded people that share a (genuine) interest in something you are likely to let your real personality show. When you feel comfortable enough ask one of the female members out to lunch and see where it goes. Keep it casual Hopefully during the time you are getting to know her you'd know in advance if she is involved with someone or married before you ask. (Also join more than one group)
   
   It's possible that you are not coming off as a "confident" person. Both women and men are turned off by people who seem "eager" to please or befriend them. There is fine line you have to walk between being aloof and engaging in moments.
   I've often said that if you stick a woman in a room with 5 men and four of them are on their knees holding out their hearts toward her while the fifth guy sits in a corner drinking a cocktail and acting like she does not exist... That's they guy she will want to get to know!
   Awhile back I wrote a hub about "The One" that may be of some help. http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/ … venbillion
   Best of luck!

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   Sri Tposted 12 years ago

   First you have to love yourself regardless of everybody in the world. This will change your internal energy to a magnetic positive frequency. You will also become immune to the negative opinions and attitudes of others. This has to practiced every day until you feel absorbed in love all the time. At that point, a charisma will develop in you but don't stop there. Read books on charisma, personality and persuasion. You will increase the number of people who like you. Don't worry about the ones who don't like you. You can't please everybody. Just be detached from them and indifferent to what they think of you. Only deal with the people who are good for you.

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   iharshitaposted 12 years ago

   Everybody CAN'T please everyone.
   
   Just because people don't like you, doesn't mean that you aren't a worth person.  Just be as the way you are, and love yourself the way you are, for your ORIGINALITY defines you. Love the people who love you and just IGNORE the rest!
   
   Because life's too short to please everybody around. If someone likes you truly, they will accept you the way they are. Because the greatest thing in life is to be accepted and loved for the way you are!
   
   All the best!

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   laurenbow2posted 11 years ago

   I have always had friends, I won't lie, but of course I have always had enemies or people that just do not like me. I've learned to go with the "eff it" attitude. These people that don't like you, for no reason, are no special prize I'm sure. Those are the type of people that have absolutely nothing going for them, so they waste their time disliking people that they don't even take the time, or put in the effort to get to know.
   Trust me! It is crazy how much different (in a good way) the careless mentality helps you live. Those who don't like you, are probably not even worth your time; their loss. That's the way to look at it.
   Give up on trying to get everyone to like you, it's not gonna happen. No matter how hard you try, it just isn't going to work. But learn to accept that, and not care. Surround yourself with people that value your presence and your friendship. Anyone who can't see that you're worth it, is not worth it.

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    Bizik Addposted 11 years ago

    I simply shut them out and concentrate on those who like me....life is too short to bother about people who don't like me...cheers

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    gmwilliamsposted 9 years ago

    
    
    Who CARES if people DON'T like you.  Only insecure people care if people like them.  The most important thing is to LOVE oneself & live one's TRUTH.  There are always going to be haters, negaters, & other negative people.  Such people DON'T MATTER in the least!!!

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