Why do we say," I love you." ?

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  1. Harishprasad profile image83
    Harishprasadposted 4 years ago

    Why do we say," I love you." ?

    So many persons in love ( are they really ? ) utter these three words so casually that real meaning of these wonderful words has been lost. People , while saying these words, people build up relations and attain closeness but break up after a short span of time on the frivolous pretext. It is not my intention to tell people to scuttle their freedom of choice but I am curious to    know if there are people  who have lived up to these words in a real sense. In these words "love" is placed between "I" and "you" and I want to know if there are people who have still  kept love intact between them.

  2. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    You assume there is but one definition of love.
    The love one has for family and friends is different than the love they have for their mate and yet they may end a conversation with all of them by saying; "I love you."
    Having said that each of us has our own idea or  "expectations" of what it means when someone tells us they love us. If their actions do not meet (our) litmus test we conclude that don't love us. Maybe instead of us "assuming" that there is but one definition for love we might be better off asking a person early on, "What does love look like to (you)?" or "How do you know when (you) are loved?"
    Some people determine it by how much money you spend on them,  how much you sacrifice for them,  or willingness to put their needs ahead of yours. Others feel loved when there is constant touching, holding hands, kissing, embracing, making love, taking showers together, spend lots of time together. Someone else needs to hear the words over and over again, get the "just because" greeting cards, flowers, breakfast in bed, and other small "surprises". Some people are happy with (knowing) they can count on a person whether they utter the words or not.
    Finding someone who expresses love the way (we want) is the key.
    Just because their definition of love does not coincide with ours does not mean they are wrong for saying; "I love you."

    1. Harishprasad profile image83
      Harishprasadposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, dashingscorpio, you touched almost a bigger chunk of this whole idea. The last sentence," Just...........love you". Is a wiser one and we all give it a proper attention for a better grasp on our way of a good living.

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    cjaroszposted 4 years ago

    Why do we say hello and goodbye? We all know what is happening, but yet, we still say it. Saying I love you  only enforces what we feel. Some people feel it necesaqry . Maybe because they don't think, they show it enough.

    Even though we know someone loves us. Sometimes them telling us, means a little more. Having them admit their feelings out loud. This is a big step for many people. To realize that they love someone.

    Many people say it just to make someone happy. There is never actually any love there. They just say it because they know it will make the other person happy.

    In all honesty, I think the main reason behind saying " I love you' in short spanned relationships is because they actually want that. The person wants to love that person. They want to have those feelings, and hopes for the relationship. Although, many times it just doesn't happen for one reason or another. Maybe that said it but loved all the wrong things of the relationship,  and not the person.

 
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