What does it mean when a guy is scared of saying "I love you"?

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  1. Lightning Farron profile image58
    Lightning Farronposted 13 years ago

    What does it mean when a guy is scared of saying "I love you"?

    My bf and I have been dating for almost a month, it's a short time but we've known each other for over a year and have liked each other for that amount of time, we finally started to date and recently he tells me "I'm just scared of saying I love you." But when he says it, he freaks out, and says he doesn't mean it and giggles. I know he loves me and everything but i wanna find out why he's so scared of saying it and taking it back.

  2. Bogamay profile image58
    Bogamayposted 13 years ago

    Well men usually have that problem. i sometimes have that problem also. for me its just saying i love you sounds weird coming from a guy. it all depends on your boyfriends sensetivity. but i'm sure he means it even though he laughs

  3. Magdelene profile image81
    Magdeleneposted 13 years ago

    Well if you are young, perhaps in your mid teens or so, this is common and at this time not something to truly fret about. 
    With love comes responsibility and love grows over time, or for the worse you never really loved at all. 
    If you are young you are most likely not going to take the advice of an older person and just because I say what I believe to be true does not mean it would be true in your situation. 
    In my experience you learn as the relationship goes along and if it continues you begin to realize a great number of things.  After you have helped your partner through the hardships and enjoyed the good times in your relationship you start to weigh the pros and the cons.  There will be days when you are happy with the relationship and days when you may wish you had never met the person.  You have to be realistic, love is not a smooth ride, there will be many ups and downs. 
    I could go on but I won't. 
    Give the relationship you are in much more time, try to be patient and understanding and see if his fear begins to subside. 
    Love takes time, sometimes a very long time to be truly realized.

  4. matju71 profile image61
    matju71posted 13 years ago

    usually men like that,don't worried..just give him some times

  5. Jarn profile image60
    Jarnposted 13 years ago

    A guy being scared of saying "I love you" is a good thing. It means he holds the concept of love in the highest of regards. He wonders if he is capable of feeling love, perhaps even wondering if he's worthy of it. That's why he wants to be certain, beyond a shadow a doubt, that what he feels for you is love. Given how hard he's trying, I'd be quite flattered. As for taking it back, he's afraid that you won't reciprocate, and then he'll feel like a complete idiot.

  6. profile image0
    Old Empresarioposted 13 years ago

    If he does not say it privately, it means that you are a lovely and wonderful woman, but that he does not love you. He may eventually love you some day. But if this is important to you at this point in your relationship, you should probably leave him. It is important to understand that this probably has nothing to do with you. Men don't really fear commitment. They fear change and they fear getting old. Young men from the "divorce generation" are afraid that love leads to marriage and that marriage leads to the unhappiness that their parents seemed to experience. If he is the sort of guy that you have to clean up after all the time; run away! He's clearly a mama's boy who is seeking a female who will baby him and expect nothing in return. But at least you know he's not a liar.

  7. JT Walters profile image74
    JT Waltersposted 12 years ago

    It measn he doesn't love you and he is not all in the relationship.

  8. Smart is Good profile image61
    Smart is Goodposted 12 years ago

    You don't say if you have said "I love you" to him. But if you haven't he might be scared to receive the feared "thank you" and not the "I love you, too" He might be scared that he's opening up to you and then he might lose you. Give him positive signs and let him feel confident enough to tell you "I love you" without saying he doesn't mean it later. Try to talk about it. Tell him " When you say you love me... do you mean it or you're just saying it? Don't be scare if you really do because I love you too" or something like that. Don't embarrass him or don't tell him he's wrong and saying it too early; because that might slightly scar him for a long while in the relationship and will be afraid to open up in the future

  9. cmlindblom profile image72
    cmlindblomposted 12 years ago

    it is just how guys are sometimes brought up. I'm the same way. It isn't "cool or appropriate" to say i love you to soon. I know it sounds childish but it's true. does not mean he doesn't just means he's not comfortable saying it.

  10. profile image54
    ParkourParker99posted 9 years ago

    They are probably nervous. They are scared of you saying no.

  11. amazmerizing profile image61
    amazmerizingposted 8 years ago

    Me and my husband did go through this exact same situation! I believe this being scared is that it is a huge concept... LOVE!!! we are taught from an early age how important it is and not to take it lightly... I think he actually may be on the right track... it IS a scary concept. Loving someone means you have given control over your happiness to someone else. Not to be taken lightly. To me he is clearly saying he doesn't feel that he knows you well enough yet to say those words.


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