A man gave a girl an expensive car, jewelry, trips, gifts, He adored her. What did he forget?
Relationships can be difficult, but you hate when it ends without the important factors that could have made it work. What more could this man do to create a lasting love during a two year period
He forgot that while spoiling a girl is necessary .. if you do it too much and too soon ..she won't respect him at all ... .anyway ..that's what I think might have gone wrong i.e..unrequited love..
Only that girl knows what was missing.
For some women that would have been enough to stick around. We also don't know whether or not she was attracted to him or if they were sexually compatible or if he treated her like one of the many "things" he owns. Every woman has different needs/wants.
Last but not least maybe (she) was never "in love" with him to begin with! A one sided love affair seldom lasts long.
Very rarely are failed relationships about "right" or "wrong". They're usually more about "agree" and "disagree".
There is no amount of (communication) or (work) that can overcome being with someone who does not want what you want.
He forgot to adore himself probably, & he'd have been better off giving her nothing....She'd have left him sooner, but a lot less cheaper....I wonder if she gave him the car etc back, if not she sounds like a money grabber....I say neither we're in love, neither the man nor the woman....He tried to buy her love, & she got valuables instead of love from him....I say never try to work out what went wrong, but to be a man next time....Give the next woman love not gifts, & if she doesn't love him back she'l soon be off, & not hanging around waiting for the next prezzie....I mean if she offered him none of his gifts back out of respect, then why the heck would he even want her back.
I'd agree that it's an individual thing about what's missing, but from my own perspective -- he forgot time. I've never been a very materialistic person, and in the past have had a hard time seeing "I love you" in a paycheck and the things money can buy. I know that's how a lot of people express their love, but everyone understands love in a different way.
For myself, it's the little things in life that TRULY show love. My husband spends time just talking to me, he loves to snuggle, and brings me my coffee in the morning fixed just the way I like it. He respects my opinions, and we can spend hours discussing some political, cultural or historic point. When he sees a frustration or road block in my life, he doesn't say a word -- he just looks for a way to fix it. As an example, I used to have an extremely messy desk that had too much stuff crammed into a small space and was a constant source of frustration for me. One day he just got up, said, "You're getting new shelves" and set about building them.
So...I guess from my perspective, he forgot the things that he can only learn through close observation and attention. Anyone can exchange money for items; it's not hard, and it doesn't necessarily take any thought. While many people see it as giving their beloved all that time they spent working for the money, others see it as being bought off to avoid truly meaningful interaction. If the relationship relies on materials, then it dies with the cash flow. I'll also add that I focus on what he forgot because that's the slant of the question, but no relationship succeeds or fails on the actions of just one person -- there are missing factors on both sides.
The man forgot to respect her, he forgot to tell her he loved her.
Giving gifts doesn't create love. At least not the type worth pursuing.
Giving attention and caring for someone is the answer, by the way.
He forgot how to treat the girl he did not treat her with love but only with what he thought would make everything right. Love respect communication, or how to face reality in a relationship it is not all about what he gave her.
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