Is it wrong to cut someone off if they didn't call or text U on UR birthday but U did 4 theirs
you have been friends with them for a long time and they have talked to you throughout the week, you remembered their birthday and even took them out.
I will suggest you don't jump to conclusions right away--wait a few days, see if they realize their mistake and apologize.
It's just my opinion--do what you think is the best.
Seems a bit childish to me, I'm sorry. If this is a friend for a long time and you are willing to "drop them" because they missed a call, it seems you are not valuing their friendship very much either. Perhaps they simply forgot - it happens. It is careless yes, but it doesn't mean they don't care for you, especially since they talked to you throughout the week. I'd hope people wouldn't drop me cold because I forgot a date on a calendar. heavens.
It's not wrong, just immature. You can't assume someone doesn't care just because they didn't reply. You really don't know what's going on in someone's life at every moment. If this is a true friend, and you are both on the same page, meaning, this friendship isn't only in your mind, then trust it...trust them by not placing all the credibility of the relationship into one phone call or text.
One thing to point out; when you give something to someone, do it unconditionally or don't do it at all because when you give and expect a payback, that's not really giving.
Some people are just bad with dates. If this is the only issue you have with your friend then it's not worth throwing away an otherwise good friendship.
Adjust your expectations of this person to not include making the acknowledgement of your birthday a "deal breaker". Odds are if you did not recall their birthday they would not consider it to be the end of the world. The only other alternative is to mention your birthday several times in conversation as it approaches to see if they make a note of it.
However in the end we either learn to accept people for who they are or we move on. Each of us is entitled to have our (own) "deal breakers" regarding friendships and relationships.
Geez, hyper-sensitive much?? You could at least ask "Dude, did you know it was my birthday last week?" first before dropping them like a hot rock.
Everyone makes a mistake, and sure it hurts but...come on...cut them off?? No way. I love my husband dearly, but I forgot his birthday once until our daughter called him. OOPS!
Life is hard, people get busy. If your feelings are hurt, say so, be up front and honest but not petty or unkind.
It is not necessary to drop them for not remembering your birthday such things happens all the time the best is to talk about it an don't take everything to heart
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