Is ut a good idea to be Dating a guy eight years older than you

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  1. Jordann Scott profile image57
    Jordann Scottposted 4 years ago

    Is ut a good idea to be Dating a guy eight years older than you

  2. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    Eight years is really not the issue as much as how old the youngest person is. For example a 40 year old dating a 48 year old is different than having an 18 year old senior in high school dating a 26 year old.
    Ideally the youngest person should have a strong sense of self, be independent, mature, and has some dating experience. When this is not the case it's easy for the young person to come to depend on the older person in ways that resemble a parent/child relationship instead of having an equal partnership.
    Immaturity and lack of relationship experience often leads to having (unrealistic expectations) and can overwhelm one during the "infatuation phase" of a new relationship especially with an older more worldly person.

    1. Jordann Scott profile image57
      Jordann Scottposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Lol I'm almost eighteen and he's almost 26 were not dating yet but I don't want to be stepping into the wrong direction neither does he cause were best friends he wants to wait

    2. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Not many parents would approve of that relationship. In a lot of places it's illegal for an "adult" to have sex with someone under the age of 18. It's not uncommon for teenage girls to want to date older guys. Older men also pursue younger women.

    3. Jordann Scott profile image57
      Jordann Scottposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Yes I get that that's why I want to wait till I'm older but I just don't want to be that clutsy idiot falling into this

  3. jaydawg808 profile image91
    jaydawg808posted 4 years ago

    I guess it depends. If you're 19 and dating an 11 year old, then that's kind of bad.  But if you're 28 and dating a 20 year old, nothing wrong with that at all.

    1. Jordann Scott profile image57
      Jordann Scottposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Im 17 and he's 25 were not  dating yet but I don't want to be stepping into the wrong direction neither does he cause were best friends he wants to wait

  4. wychic profile image87
    wychicposted 4 years ago

    It's never a matter of age (beyond legality -- wait until your birthday before anything incriminating, assuming Illinois has the same 4-year gap law that Wyoming does tongue), but always a matter of maturity and life stage. There are people in their 40s who are stuck in their late teens maturity-wise, while a teenager may have the maturity of a 50-year-old. It varies hugely by individual, and chronological age is often a terrible marker.

    I met my husband when I was 22 and he was 49. We married the following year. I'll be 28 next week and he's 54 -- we now have two kids together and going great. Plenty of people told us that it was too big of an age gap, that my head would be turned by younger men and he'd get tired of my lack of world experience, but they were wrong. It takes a lot to make a relationship work, but if you have a good mesh going and can work together as a team, then that age thing really is just a number.

    1. Jordann Scott profile image57
      Jordann Scottposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Wow that is pretty cool how did you guys meet?

    2. wychic profile image87
      wychicposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Playing free poker on Myspace, of all things. They had a chat box big_smile. We got a regular poker group going from 9 strangers, ended up finding a husband and 5 lasting friends smile

    3. Jordann Scott profile image57
      Jordann Scottposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Ok so how did you do the whole online dating? Was it hard

  5. DDE profile image25
    DDEposted 4 years ago

    Dating is just an unforgettable experience you are not yet dating him   try keep the good ties you have with him and see where it all goes. Age is no problem.

 
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