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What's the best way to say to your childhood bestfriend that you want more than

  1. dailytop10 profile image90
    dailytop10posted 3 years ago

    What's the best way to say to your childhood bestfriend that you want more than friendship?

    I've been hanging out with her since preschool and she's the coolest girl I ever met.

  2. Charles Harmon profile image59
    Charles Harmonposted 3 years ago

    "Call me crazy, but I think I'm falling in love with you."
    "If I would've knew the girl would've been you, I would've been nice to you. A little more kind to you, I would've looked twice at you."
    "#HH There are seven rays on her crown, one for each of the seven continents, each measuring up to 9 feet in length and weighing as much as 150 pounds"
    Musiq Soulchild- "Love"
    You are my ROCK!
    "Don't Change"
    "Ms. Philadelphia"
    "Say I Do"

  3. profile image33
    ASKSADIEposted 3 years ago

    Hi. Initially, you don't ask, you look -- carefully -- at her reactions. Fish like a Cousteau. When you're together, is she "casual?" Does she talk of other guys? Does she dress up for you? Does she stay close physically and make strong eye contact? Look at her clues and cues, when say, you put an arm around her. Does she respond as a "pal" or does she pull you in?

    If she does, she's most likely interested, and seize the moment! Trust me, if she's on board, she's sending more signals than a satellite. Now it's up to you to read them and respond.

    Marnie Winston-Macauley MS

  4. Hackslap profile image86
    Hackslapposted 3 years ago

    It can be tricky trying to turn a long term friendship into something more ...girls usually tend to place guys in your position in the dreaded 'friendzone' which is hard to escape from especially if you've been there for years ..... ask yourself this ....or are you certain you have feelings for her or are in love with her? Will you take no for an answer and act and behave all cool?

    Be the man and tell her straight up ..but only if you're willing to accept that your friendship may not remain what it is....if she's a decent girl who cares about you as your close/best friend. ..she'll politely say no and probably even give you an honest reason for why.... ..if she says yes then great news! (after all who knows..she might be feeling the same way too but wants you to make a move?).. .but if she flips out in shock then be prepared to distance yourself ..... in other words.. go for it ..but only if you're willing to risk any consequence to your friendship

    Hope this helps

  5. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    Unless she has flirted with you or given you any reason to believe she is romantically interested in you it would probably be a good idea to just fade away. This may (cause her to ask you what is the matter) and that would give you an opportunity to lay your cards on the line.
    You can simply state that you have come to realize you are attracted to her in a "non platonic way" and since you sense the feeling is not mutual you thought it would be better to distance yourself some.
    That will give her an opportunity to let you know if she is "into" you as well. The last thing you want to do is profess your love or desire for her out of the blue!
    Stop acting like you are her friend! If you act like a friend you will be treated like a friend. Forget about everything she has told you about the kind of man she claims she "wants" and instead focus on being the kind of guy she chases after. Rarely are they the same.
    Best wishes!

  6. bethperry profile image91
    bethperryposted 3 years ago

    Funny you asked...another mom I know said her daughter got "the message" from her school sweetheart when they were HS and he showed up at her door. He was dressed in a light suit and holding a box of candy and said (speaking like Forrest Gump): "I love you, Jenny."
    Apparently it worked. She's wearing his class ring now smile

  7. DDE profile image26
    DDEposted 3 years ago

    You know quite well but still got to see how she reacts when with you. It will show you if she wants more than a friendship from you. It all depends on she feels when with you.

  8. realtalk247 profile image70
    realtalk247posted 3 years ago

    This is not a formal conversation.  You have to kind of change the mood. subtlety is the key.  Act the same and perhaps change your environments to more intimate settings that spark conversation and couple like activity. Monitor her reaction (comfort or discomfort) and proceed from there.  If you want to cross the line with friendship, she should be "the one" and not just someone you want to try to date casually.