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Gentleman or Gay

  1. godpreacher profile image75
    godpreacherposted 7 years ago

    Why is it that many women think a guy is gay and not see him as a gentleman if he's not aggressively pursuing sex. but is rather wanting to know her.

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      Crazdwriterposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      who knows why but it is sad I think...there are a lot of good guys out there who don't just go after sex and girls don't see it. *hugs*
      But there is hope. My husband doesn't want sex all of the time smile

    2. aware profile image69
      awareposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      i guess many women are not to bright

    3. Cagsil profile image60
      Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Does this even dignify a response? What difference does it make? roll

  2. tantrum profile image61
    tantrumposted 7 years ago

    In what planet ?

    1. Haunty profile image85
      Hauntyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      lol lol

  3. Bovine Currency profile image59
    Bovine Currencyposted 7 years ago

    Gay planet?  I am often accused of being gay, right before I lay a really hot girl tongue

    1. tantrum profile image61
      tantrumposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      well, you said you've gone for everything ! lol

      1. Bovine Currency profile image59
        Bovine Currencyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        I have been around, yes lolcool

      2. Bovine Currency profile image59
        Bovine Currencyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        I have been around, yes lolcool

        1. tantrum profile image61
          tantrumposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          cool  big_smile  roll tongue lol

  4. wesleyacarter profile image51
    wesleyacarterposted 7 years ago

    a lot of women are insecure and try to blame the lack of sexual aggression on some kind of sexual deficiency like homosexuality. rather than seeing the man for what he really is, and looking at herself for what she really is. Denial. the prospect that someone might not want to have sex with her. how devastating to her self-esteem.

  5. wesleyacarter profile image51
    wesleyacarterposted 7 years ago

    if he uses a lot of hand motions while rationalizing why he doesn't want to sleep with her...he's probably gay

    1. Haunty profile image85
      Hauntyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Now, that's insightful. How do you know? (I don't intend to be sarcastic.)

      1. wesleyacarter profile image51
        wesleyacarterposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        i have a gay client who would probably ball if he read that. i think it's funny you weren't being sarcastic, because i definitely meant that as a joke.

      2. Mikel G Roberts profile image80
        Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        He may just be Italian... (speaking from experience not racism both my kids are Italian.)

        1. Bovine Currency profile image59
          Bovine Currencyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          I have european background, I talk with my hands.  I don't think your comment is in anyway racist smile

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    lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago

    sorry buddy never heard of this theory before.  check with the miss or mrs - somethings off balance i say
    lol  yikes

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      lyricsingrayposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      big_smile

  7. godpreacher profile image75
    godpreacherposted 7 years ago

    The understanding I'm seeking is not at all about me, for I am a gentleman, and a happily married man. I have had guys pose this question to me. Guys who were living Christian lives, and did not want to have sex outside of marriage, yet, they wanted to be in a relationship.

    1. tantrum profile image61
      tantrumposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I pass ! big_smile

      1. Bovine Currency profile image59
        Bovine Currencyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        grrr

        1. tantrum profile image61
          tantrumposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          Yeah ! lol

          1. Bovine Currency profile image59
            Bovine Currencyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

            Me go lunch now tongue

            Cya later today/tonight whatever it is.  Dim Sum here I Cum big_smilebig_smilebig_smile

            1. tantrum profile image61
              tantrumposted 7 years agoin reply to this

              Saturday night here !
              C U ! tongue big_smile

      2. Mikel G Roberts profile image80
        Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        I have to agree, I like the test drives...

    2. Bovine Currency profile image59
      Bovine Currencyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Now we are talking shop.  I guess the problem is Mr Preacher, maybe these ladies want sex.  It is that simple?

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    Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago

    sorry godpreacher wish I knew the answer for ya but I don't know. Women are mysterious and weird creatures...shoot I am one and I don't fully understand how other women think or why they act a certain way.

  9. Len Cannon profile image90
    Len Cannonposted 7 years ago

    Is this a problem you are experiencing? Have you considered not giving her Spice Girls mix tapes as tokens of cuddliness?

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      lyricsingrayposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      roll

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    lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago

    pass here too
    lol

  11. mintinfo profile image74
    mintinfoposted 7 years ago

    It is a result of cultural change. Most women and men no longer follow the traditional courting practices of previous generations. In previous generations most women were expected to attract a good man who could take care of them while they tend to the children and the house. Men only perused 1 lifelong  relationship that held meaning. In order to impress a lady and show that you were worthy of her hand in marriage you had to be a gentleman. Today most relationships are not perused with marriage in mind. Most women are no longer looking for and do not expect long term commitment. They no longer have to depend on men for comfort so they pick and choose according to their own desires. There are still some women who value a gentleman but they are few and far between.

    1. godpreacher profile image75
      godpreacherposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for your reply,
      really good answer, very helpful

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    TMinutposted 7 years ago

    There's also the case that many, many women rarely experience such a thing. Most dates are spent trying to avoid the hands, from my experience it didn't matter who or what the guy was normally. So yeah, if a guy isn't trying, you figure he doesn't like you or is gay. At least then you can enjoy his company and the date.

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    TMinutposted 7 years ago

    Of course, my experiences were long ago, I just avoid all if it now but now is when I probably don't have to worry about it anymore!

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    lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago
  15. Anna Evanswood profile image76
    Anna Evanswoodposted 7 years ago

    Not all women think this way!! We live in a fast paced society, where "what I want" is the most important thing. This doesn't seem to leave time for "getting to know" someone over a long period of time in a ladylike or gentlemanly fashion.

    There are some ladies out there that want to take things slowly and that are looking for committment not a fast fling. You should counsel the men who are asking you this question to be patient and not to compromise their ideals because when they meet the right one the waiting will be worth it:)

 
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