Do we really let go at the past???

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  1. profile image53
    Hildaramposted 4 years ago

    Do we really let go at the past???

    I believe the past is always going to be part of our future. Is not easy but keeps teaching us a lesson in life.

  2. Snøwman profile image61
    Snøwmanposted 4 years ago

    You can be healed from bad things the past, but it will still influence your future.

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      Hildaramposted 4 years agoin reply to this


  3. cebutouristspot profile image73
    cebutouristspotposted 4 years ago

    The past is a mold that shape us and made who we are today. 

    For me the term letting go is not forgetting about it but the ability to smile when you recall your past and not dwell on it anymore.

  4. gmwilliams profile image83
    gmwilliamsposted 4 years ago

    It is all a matter of opinion.  There are people who refuse to be ruled by their past.  They see the mistakes and errors of the past as a lesson to be learned and they move on.  They contend that to dwell upon the past precludes them for fully appreciating and living in the present.  They furthermore assert that living in the past prevents them for fully planning and embracing the future.   They are of the school that the present and the future are more important than the past.  To them, the past is gone so why continuously dwell upon it; that is a great waste of time and life.

    The first type of person is of an optimistic bent in life.  To them, life is full of opportunities and they deem it foolish, even stupid to constantly bemoan past events which are negative.  They figure what point is it to just dwell on past events when there is the present and future where there is improvement, even growth.   To them, the past is inconsequential, what IS important is how to make the most of the present and future.  Afterall, they maintain, that the majority of our lives will be spend in the present and future and simply let bygones be bygones. 

    There are people who believe that the past STRONGLY DETERMINES their future.  If they commit a mistake in the past, they believe that this will severely impact upon their present, even future circumstances.  They are of the school that one's past is an instrumental and influential part of their present and future.  They simply refuse to let go of their past, instead wearing their past as an albatross.  In their eyes, since they made mistakes and errors in the past, their present and future aren't as good as the latter would have been if they hadn't make such mistakes.   To them, the past is the present, even the future.

    Then there are people who are so fearful of the future that they dwell on the past as an excuse for what might have been.  Some people see the mistakes of their past as an everending penance.  They record the past, reliving it daily, instead of seeing the past as.....the past.  They have an abnormal amount of guilt for the things they did.  They rather live in a toxic psychological state, then to analyze the past, move on, and fully live in the present and future.  Also, the future represents the UNKNOWN and they will rather dwell, even live in the past although it is toxic because it is KNOWN and familiar than to fully forgive themselves and embrace the future.

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      Hildaramposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Very true

  5. Tusitala Tom profile image66
    Tusitala Tomposted 4 years ago

    Every experience we have ever had since we were born (and Reincarnationists would say, every significant experience even from previous lifetimes) is remembered by us.  This does not, of course, mean that we can recall it at will.  However, a good recregressional hypnotherapist can take you back (figuratively) to virtually any time in your lifetime.   When this is done it will seem like you are actually there again, experiencing the same scenes and the feelings which went along with those scenes.

    Every thought we've ever had is attended by an emotional reaction to that thought.   The effect of the emotional component can be so slight that it is like a word written on water: gone immediately.  Other emotions, reacting from our experiences can be like words scraped in sand before an incoming tide: fairly quickly washed away.  But there are others that are like words chiselled in granite.   They can stay with us all of our lives, and often do.  These remain just below our consciousness but ready to well over at the right triggering events.

    The idea is to get rid of the emotional content which is causing us problems.  The memories are never forgotten but the emotional content of those  memories can be eradicated so that they no longer affect us.

    So, in effect, we can let go of the emotions of the past, but retain the lessons learned.   Seeking to do this is a worthwhile undertaking and will lead to a more joyful and peaceful life.

    1. gmwilliams profile image83
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      A+ indeed.

    2. profile image53
      Hildaramposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I always say....I've learned from my past. To become a girl that was so quiet and nice to the women I am now is the cause of past experiences of life. I love who I am now the past has make me stronger and more self spoken.

  6. DDE profile image25
    DDEposted 4 years ago

    Letting go of the past is never easy it somehow comes back to haunt you. Your past is what made you who are today. Experiences that you will always learn from no matter what your situation I know that from my experiences.

  7. erorantes profile image53
    erorantesposted 4 years ago

    The past is like a bad dream or good dream. I do not like nightmares , so I do not think about the past experiences because the bad memories make people depress. It is always good to be optimistic and positive about life. Always , I  try not to make the same mistake.If I do . Definitely , there is something wrong with me. The future is part of the past in technology and our own lives too . Bad or good is always part of us.


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