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With so many options to choose from nowadays, would/did you get married? Why or

  1. KL Klein profile image84
    KL Kleinposted 3 years ago

    With so many options to choose from nowadays, would/did you get married? Why or why not?

    Now that it's socially acceptable to live together, is there still any reason to get married? What do you think?

    If you're married or think you would like to be, why? If not, what made you take that choice?

  2. The Examiner-1 profile image76
    The Examiner-1posted 3 years ago

    I have not because I have not met the correct woman. Plus I may not have money these days.

  3. jlpark profile image85
    jlparkposted 3 years ago

    I made the choice to get married, after having a Civil Union, to the same person, because it was finally an option for us.

    We wanted to spend the rest of our lives together, to raise a family, and grow old together, and be viewed as equal to our heterosexual counterparts. Whilst similar, a Civil Union is different, it is rarely understood in countries who do not have them, and is really a "second best" option - to set us on a level unequal to others.

  4. ChristinS profile image96
    ChristinSposted 3 years ago

    I married the first time and later divorced amicably. We were both good people, but not good together. 

    The second time around I consider myself to be just as "married" even though we only live together.  I have a tighter bond with my current significant other than I ever had with anyone else and we are wholly committed to each other.  We simply have better things to spend money on than a wedding and giving money to the state for a marriage license.  We consider each other husband and wife regardless and have been together for 8+ years.

  5. Snøwman profile image60
    Snøwmanposted 3 years ago

    I'm not married, but I plan to get married. Marriage and families are very important in my religion. It's socially acceptable to live together, but it's still morally wrong.

  6. Chinaimport profile image91
    Chinaimportposted 3 years ago

    Living together without getting married is acceptable but legal framework to support this on a global scale is non existent.  If you decide to live and work in another country you would know the difference between being legally married and living together.

    Most of the countries in the world would not grant a dependent visa for a partner in long term relationship unless they are legally married.  What about the citizenship of a child born in a foreign country, assuming both parents have different nationality?  Tax and insurance laws are also largely in favor of a legally married entity.

    Being an expatriate myself, I have seen people getting married just to avoid these legal situations.

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    temptor94posted 3 years ago

    If two people are truly committed to each other and want to grow old together, marriage doesn't bring any additional significance in the relationship, except for the legal perspectives. A marriage can always end up in divorce if the two people are not compatible.
    In my country however, marriage is a must for partners to have certain legal rights, which are not extended to live-together partners. Just for that sake, I would probably get married, but at the end of the day, the event itself is only a social and legal binding consisting of huge expenses.

  8. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    Having options has not quelled people's desire to get married. Tradition will always draw people towards getting married at least once in their lives.
    According to statistics in the U.S. there are over 2.3 Million weddings that take place  each year! Weddings are big business!
    Not only are people getting married it's not uncommon for people to have been married (more than once)! With the advent of "marriage equality" laws sweeping across the country we're likely to see an even higher number weddings as gay and lesbian couples legally tie the knot.
    It's great that we do have so many options to live our lives without as much stigma and judgment as was often the case in past eras. Nevertheless (most people) will want to experience the pageantry and celebration that comes with having a "special day" to commemorate their union publically and legally. Die hard "romantics" will never let their dream of having a wedding die. Marriage is here to stay regardless of however many options. They love the idea of it.
    Even with a divorce rate hovering around 50% it's not stopping most people from embarking on it at least once. There are no guarantees!

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      temptor94posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Great answer smile People will never really stop getting married, everyone wants to try it at least once.

  9. mothersofnations profile image76
    mothersofnationsposted 3 years ago

    Initially I had a personal issue with marriage. Although I was asked I didn't feel like it was the right thing to do. Just something made me uncomfortable about it, like it wasn't heartfelt, and maybe it wasn't... (Also we had gotten together at a very young age.) Never the less, we were together for over a decade by the time I decided it was best to walk out of it and I'm glad I did.

    All of that made me leery about the legalities of marriage. I was grateful I was able to leave without a judge dictating my life.

    Being a Christian & having grown in the Spirit, I see things differently now. I have a better understanding of God's word, what it means to be unified & in agreement in the Spirit, etc.

    I'm in a relationship now that blossomed through friendship first, of course God has His hand in all of it from the very beginning. We're both Christians and God has blessed us with our relationship. For the first time in my life, I'm not afraid of marriage or the law. I trust in God's word & His promises. He's asked me to marry him & I've accepted smile

    This is all because of God. We've prayed a lot for each other and wanted to make sure we heard God's voice before anything.

    Regardless of what you decide, it's important to be sure the two of you are in agreement, with major life choices, that you can listen & speak to each other, that you can work through any disagreement, and have genuine respect, love & loyalty for one another before making a long term commitment & investing so much of yourselves into something as serious as a lifelong marriage / covenant.

    Relationships shouldn't be taken lightly in any way because this is your life that you plan to share & spend with someone else.

    My suggestion is lots of prayer & patience. God bless you.