Do women sometimes create drama just because?

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   ReneeDC1979posted 9 years ago

   Do women sometimes create drama just because?

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   DDEposted 9 years ago

   Sometimes most women just want to be right about whatever is going on in their lives. The drama they create  can make them important.

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   dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago

   I believe there are (some women) who associate drama with "emotion" and passion. They'd be (bored to death) if things weren't shook up from time to time. I suspect it's one of the reasons why a lot of women are attracted to "bad boys" during their youth. They believe arguments/fights means you're emotionally invested.
   Drama equals excitement and unpredictability where one's heart hangs in the balance. Breakups and makeups are "romanticized" as something special between them. "I can't live with him and I can't live without him". (Clearly this means they must be "soul-mates"). At least that's what they believe. In truth it's a (manic depressive relationship). Their relationship has mood swings.

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   NightFlowerposted 9 years ago

   Lord. Lord, YES!  I have met women who seem to like standing back and marveling at their own cruel and unusual work (drama). It's like they go around and create this tapestry of mess and chaos and then they want to reap the glory of havoc they have caused but then of course, there are other consequences they have to reap to their disadvantage, such as not being able to hold on to any friends at the first sign that they aren't watching. I see it with my own eyes and I still feel the need to blink in rapid succession with a purposeful rub. It never ceases to amaze the lengths these women past the age of 40 will go to. “Ain’t you too old yet”, is my question but the answer keeps coming back a resounding, NO!  It's like they aren't living unless something is going wrong in someone else's life and they are the henchman. These women are generally very miserable themselves and you know how much misery loves company. Misery also ends up later, lonely picking up stray cats. If someone who is a real friend ever sees me finding delight in trouble as a favorite past time I want them to take me to the side and slap me like their first name is Joe, last name Jackson if ya' nasty.

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      Express10posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      May I add an amen and also add that you speak the utmost truth!

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   Lisa HWposted 9 years ago

   From what I've seen, there are plenty of men who create/love/thrive on "drama".  It's just that a lot of people don't recognize that type of "drama" when a man creates it.   In other words, not all women create drama, and not all who do are women.
   
   Another angle, though, is that SOME women face more "selective narcissists" than a lot of men do.  People who are otherwise aren't really narcissists can have a te4ndency to see SOME women as "less than" or as "objects" more readily than they see either OTHER women or else men.
   
   All any woman who tries to stand up to (in some way) some self-important, arrogant, other has to do is just that:   Try to stand up to him/her, try to defend herself, etc. etc.   Sometimes the drama isn't what the woman who has been seen as "less" wanted, or created.  Sometimes it's created when the narcissistic and overbearing persohn gets REALLY mad to think the "the likes of her" "had the nerve" (or "is misguided enough") not to knuckle under and let the narcissistic-thinking person be "established" as superior.
   
   In one of her books about emotional abuse Patricia Evans points out that narcissistic-thinking people become "beside themselves" when the person they see as "less" or as an object actually shows signs of being a separate individual who expects to be viewed as an equal.
   
   There's no no doubt there are immature "drama queen" women, but the more common problem may be the drama that happens when women refuse to be treated as/seen as "less" or "generally inferior".

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