What are some ways I can have my husband be fully attracted to me?

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  1. carol forsyth profile image60
    carol forsythposted 3 years ago

    What are some ways I can have my husband be fully attracted to me?

  2. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    Think back to how you were with him when you were dating.
    Too often a lot of couples pull a "bait and switch" when it comes to relationships and marriage. In the (beginning) they're doing everything to "win over" or impress the person they are attracted to.
    Once there is an emotional investment or commitment they "relax" or reveal their "authentic selves". Odds are if they had behaved like that at the start the relationship would have never progressed.
    Only you know what you mean by the words "fully attracted"  to you. Did he change? Did you change? or Did both of you change? Is it possible you want him to be someone who he is not?
    Does he reject your sexual advances? Are you comparing yourself to other women?
    You can only control yourself. You can't manufacture chemistry; it's either there or it's not. The great thing is you must have had it or else he would not have married you to begin with. The longer you've been with someone the more you should know about what turns them on or off. Most people know what their mate is attracted to.
    Oftentimes it's not about us not "knowing" what our mate wants or is attracted to. It's more to do with us trying to figure out a way for them to (accept) or be happy with what we are "willing" to give them. (Communicate) Forget about using (Jedi mind tricks) or looking for "subliminal ways". Tell him what you'd like to see more of in your marriage. Decide together to make romance/passion a priority in your marriage. You can initiate some things and see if he reciprocates.
    If someone believes you are worth the effort they will make the effort. There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships. We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Stay or move on. The choice is up to us!

  3. deecoleworld profile image81
    deecoleworldposted 3 years ago

    Ask your husband directly what he likes and wants wink

    This may sound messed up but if you gain a lot of weight, lose it and/or tone up. As a female I hate to admit this but a lot of guys need physical attraction. Don't let yourself go and don't be lazy! Shower constantly and perhaps throw some eye-shadow on

    Perhaps you can try something totally new. Like role-play/dress up, s and m, etc. (if you haven't done so already). If you guys are traditional perhaps you can just hold/kiss one another and overall be intimate with each other! Intimacy can be very sexy/sensual

    Try to spend more time with each other! Perhaps you can get away and rekindle your romance!!!! Your husband married you because you are attractive you just got to remind him of that!!! smile Btw I don't mean to pry but I am curious why do you ask?

    1. Arco Hess Designs profile image71
      Arco Hess Designsposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Very good advice. The spending more time with each other is where you lost me. That all depends on how much time they currently spend together. If they are around each other 24/7 already, that may be why he seems not attracted to her.

    2. carol forsyth profile image60
      carol forsythposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      yea arco is right, we spend all the time together. and the only weight gain i have is from having a baby. thats it. i know i need to tone that up, he dont like roleplay and i do. but thats beside the point. the reason i ask is cuz hes told me he isnt

    3. deecoleworld profile image81
      deecoleworldposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      @Arco Hess Designs: I am talking about spending quality time with someone. Outside your home and away from your kids. Taking time for romance
      @carol forsyth: That's pretty direct, did you ask him why? and in what ways he's not fully attracted to you?

    4. carol forsyth profile image60
      carol forsythposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      my stomach. mostly. idk.. its not just being attracted to me, theres so much more. i've never had this problem with anyone. thats why im just like, omg what do i do!? maybe my hair isnt perfect, or i dont put on makeup anymore. (cuz of him)

    5. deecoleworld profile image81
      deecoleworldposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      @carol forsyth: Ok! It sounds a bit harsh though!!! He should be lifting you up, it sounds like he's putting you down!! You have a baby (his baby!!) He should be more understanding!!! It gonna take time to get back to routine!

  4. aquariusaman profile image59
    aquariusamanposted 3 years ago

    Always be confident and never allow anyone to hurt your self respect.
    Always make him happy by loyalty and infinite love smile

  5. carol forsyth profile image60
    carol forsythposted 3 years ago

    sorry wouldnt let me say more,
    he said he isnt fully attracted to me. numerous times. and i cant figure out how to make him feel the opposite towards me.


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