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Why do women have such big trust issues?

  1. Monae93 profile image60
    Monae93posted 3 years ago

    Why do women have such big trust issues?

  2. Tusitala Tom profile image60
    Tusitala Tomposted 3 years ago

    Do women have more 'trust' issues, as you call them than men?   That is an assumption I do not necessarily agree with, but let us exam it briefly.   I assume your talking about trust in relationships.

    I think women are generally more loyal once they have committed to a relationship than men.   This does not mean that men are not equally committed.  What is does mean, I suspect, is men are more readily tempted to stray.   This is likely because men can become more easily aroused simply by their imginations and therefore more easily tempted.  Women, if I understand their viewpoint even a little ( and it is a little, for I'm speaking only from observation) are more in control of themselves and are not likely to be tempted until they've known a person for some time.

    I generalize, of course.  And, it is likely that women have more to lose, being the home-maker (in most instances) and the bearer of children.   The security of their home and children quite likely rates a little higher than it does of the typical male.

    1. Monae93 profile image60
      Monae93posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      That I can agree with

  3. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    I believe any man or woman who has ever been lied to, cheated on, or betrayed in some way has "trust issues".
    In some instances "others" including parents, best friends, and peers have poisoned the minds of a person with their own bad experiences. They offer unsolicited advice: "Let me tell you, this is how men are ...etc" or "All men are no good liars and cheaters. Never trust a man any further than you can throw him!"
    Statements like these linger in a person's mind even if they personally have never experienced a painful relationship.
    Truth be told trust is much like respect in that it should be (earned) overtime. A person who says; "I'll trust anyone until they prove me wrong" is a Conman's dream! Gullible people often get hurt.
    Trust should gradually be given once one has demonstrated to you honesty and integrity over a lengthy period of time.
    Never separate your mind from your heart when making relationship decisions. The purpose of the mind is to protect the heart.
    Never ignore "red flags!"

    1. Monae93 profile image60
      Monae93posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I agree but often times people ruin relationships because of things in their mind. People often worry about the next person coming into the picture because of past pictures instead of painting a new picture

    2. dashingscorpio profile image86
      dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I believe the "once bitten twice shy" rule applies for just about anyone who has been hurt before. Another way of looking at it is they've "learned" to be more cautious. If you love someone being patient/understanding for a "reasonable time" is ok

  4. thomasczech profile image65
    thomasczechposted 3 years ago

    I do not believe that women have greater trust issues than men. I believe that any person who has been hurt in a relationship-man or woman- will have issues with trust. The question I pose is this: "How can one regain trust, or be able to trust again?"

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    AuthorPamelaJonesposted 3 years ago

    There are a lot of women who have been hurt by men, be it their husbands, boyfriends, or even fathers. This will indeed affect their ability to trust the opposite sex.

    Keep in mind, as many have mentioned here, that men can also have trust issues.

  6. Barine Sambaris profile image76
    Barine Sambarisposted 3 years ago

    Maybe if guys stop being jerks and stop breaking their hearts they won't have trust issues.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image86
      dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse. If one is always with jerks THEY need to re-examine (their) "selection criteria"! If you go to the store to buy an apple but purchase an onion instead whose fault is that? Live & learn.