If you find yourself the "Center of Attention," in a group situation
Does this a)make you uncomfortable or b)do you enjoy this or c)have little reaction at all?
This hasn't happened to me lately, but at one time it was the rule more than the exception. I'm not an extrovert and making small talk in groups was never my forte, but I always enjoyed attention when it was directed toward my talent rather than 'me' as a person.
From youth to my mid-fifties, I had a good singing voice and played piano/keyboard/organ. During many parties and other special events, I was often asked to entertain by playing and singing. I did so with no hesitation and loved every minute of it! Those are great memories. (Thanks for reminding me of them.) : )
Jaye.....What an interesting tidbit of information to know about you after 3 years!! How I wish I could have been in the audience! I can understand loving the attention. You deserved it!
d) It freaks me right the hell out.
The only way I can handle being the center of attention is in professional situations when I'm presenting material I am an expert on. I have no fear of public speaking because my topic is actually the center of attention but when people make me, as a person, the center of attention I want to run away screaming.
When I think "Christmas is coming" I hear it in the voice of the actor who plays the character Ned Stark in Game of Thrones in my head. People are going to give me gifts while everybody stares at me expecting me to act like I enjoy getting gifts. Again, my desire in that situation is to exit, stage left at great speed. I am a hypocrite, though, because I like giving gifts and I prefer to do it completely anonymously.
Paula, you actually didn't say what kind of "center of attention." Since I used to be in the entertainment business, I love the heck out of it like if I'm telling a story, the bigger audience the better. I wouldn't enjoy it if I've committed an unforgivable faux pas such as calling someone a jerk and in the meantime he or she walks in the door (now I wouldn't do that, would I?).
Or if something embarrassing happened to me, like taking the tablecloth with me and all the crystal and China crashing to the floor, or maybe something such as happened to a coworker one day in the office. Her half-slip fell down around her ankles and she didn't notice. There she stood in a puddle of tricot until someone pointed it out. She handled it so gracefully, though. She laughed and stepped out of the slip and acted like it was a natural occurrence. Now that type of attention I can do without.
It ALL depends. One can be the center of attention in a good way. Most of the time, this positive attention makes one feel quite confident in his/her being. However, this positive attention can make some people feel quite UNEASY depending upon their personality &/or psychological makeup. People who are more privately attuned &/or introverted are usually quite uncomfortable being at the center of attention although it is positive.
Conversely, one can be the center of attention in a quite negative way. This type of attention can make one feel uncomfortable at best & totally embarrassed at its worst. The average person would want to avoid any type of negative attention as his/her reputation eventually will be harmed in the long run. However, there are those who THRIVE on negative attention; they feel that they have gained some sort of notoriety by being "bad" or "evil", feeling that being at the center of negative attention is better than having no attention at all. In fact, there are people who will do anything to create negative attention in one way or another, they want to defy ethical paradigms, establishing their own inverse ethical paradigms e.g. Charles Manson, Adolf Hitler, &/or other sociopaths/psychopaths.
Grace...An enlightening & philosophical response from you and quite true as well. I thought immediately of those who have assassinated high-profile individuals. As bizarre as it may be to normal, sane people, in a twisted way these people were in fact, seeking notoriety.
I appreciate the thought you have put into your response. Are you yourself confident or shy as the center of attention? I think public speaking would be a fair gauge in judging this about ourselves, don't you?
Thanks for your participation, Grace.
Dear Mrs. Feiffer,
As you well know, I am as shy as a tiny mouse.
I don't believe I could ever be comfortable being the center of attention.
However, it has come to my attention that you are jealous of me.
A reliable source told me that you were envious because the voices talk to only me.
Yes, I am aware that I have more than you. More wrinkles, more weight, more age spots.
I am not a complete idiot, some of the parts are simply missing.
(Music crescendo here.)
No! I do not suffer from insanity; I enjoy every damn minute of it.
And, I will simply say, the next time you wonder which came first, the ham or the eggs,
please realize the egg is all in a days’ work for the chicken. It is a lifetime commitment for the pig.
DJ..I should have told you this earlier.HP has a psychiatrist on staff who monitors our site for stark raving mad lunatics. He then sends a report to a Mental facility near you. It's been so much fun knowing you. pls weave me a basket? So long now.
Lovely to be in touch with you again.
For me it would depend on the situation and who´s group I was in. Perhaps these days because I have lived alone for so long and am not in company very much , I would feel a little uncomfortable. I did last year when I was with family I hadn´t seen for years, but with friends who I see more often it perhaps wouldn´t bother me.
I hope you are keeping well dear xx
Hey! Hi there girl! Which one of us has been MIA? So good to see you again. Let me just say I wish you'd be the center of attention around here more often!! Happy thanksgiving & Peace, Paula
I have jumped ship Effer and active on bubblews these days, much easier to earn a crust there LOL. Maybe I´ll be back on HP one day, just need to find the right topic to write about, anything other than is a waste of time and effort xx
It makes me uncomfartable. I have never wanted to be the center of attention. I kind of do a lot of blushing with my shyness contributing to it. And, I happen to dissapear without anyone knowing where I am.
I hate being the center of attention in any group that numbers more than three. I have had problems in various workplace environments, including the one I currently am employed in. There are always team building exercises and groups and meeting wherein the leader of the group will have others speak in front of the rest of the group. I absolutely hate it on many, many levels. Now, that being said, I have had to help several other employees craft letters and various submissions because they cannot express themselves in writing, which is my preferred medium. I think all management personnel should read "Quiet: The Power Of Introverts In A World That Can't Stop Talking" to be able to harness the power of those that don't want to be in the spotlight.
I wasn't sure if I should answer this question or start basket weaving since I'm a little rusty. Except for an extrovert (which I don't think I am) , no one really wants to be the center of attention, too much pressure and too much pressure can make your brain explode!
You have to quickly weigh the situation and determine if the crowd is friendly or not. If they're lighting the torches your only option is to run. If the crowd is friendly, grab the bull by the horns and plow through the crowd with a smile on your face and before you know it everyone will be smiling with you. That's what I do anyway
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