What keeps marriages happy?
Does love, money, and respect keep a marriage happy?
Any kind of marriage can be happy, sad or loveless. What you put in is what you get out. Do you know what will make a marriage happiest?
Are there any happy marriages though no perfect marriages?
All marriages are different, and there is no one formula for marital happiness. People speak about marital happiness as though there is some correct pattern to follow but it should be all about love.
Everyone speaks about love but doesn't really understand the depth of love and all of its power. When you really love someone, you don't find fault or demand reciprocation. When you really love someone, life becomes more about that other person's happiness above your own petty desires. Love is unselfish, forgiving, tolerance, patient, kind. Love is courteous and gentle. Unconditional.
Marriage, or any relationship, should be based on love and everything else will fall into place.
Every marriage will have it's share of challenges.
Anyone who enters into a marriage expecting everyday to be filled with sunshine and rainbows is naïve, immature, or unrealistic.
Happiness describes (a moment in time) and not a permanent feeling. It's possible for a couple to be happy one week and unhappy next week based upon the circumstances going on in their lives.
However the overall deciding factor is when one is asked if they had it to do all over again based upon what they know about their spouse; Would they marry them again? If the answer is "yes" then consider her/him to be happy with their choice. Happiness comes from having whatever it is (you) need.
It's important to distinguish needs, wants, and "would be nice to have". Nevertheless it's hard to be happy when you don't have what (you) need in order to (feel) loved.
I quite agree with the comments here. Additionally in my view, it is Acceptability, Recognition, Appreciation of each other's personality and qualities.
Even negative points or different habits have to be accepted ( not tolerated). This is adaptability.
But all this rests on the premise that both the partners are genuinely committed to marriage and are willing to be with each other happily to make their family life harmonious.
I believe there are no perfect marriages. There may be times of disharmony, stress, frustration, etc. but I do believe to be in a happy marriage overall, there has to be respect and fairness from both sides. I've found these to be quite paramount in my own marriage. See where they are coming from in disagreements. Don't treat them in a way you would not want to be treated, and if you do just so happen to in an off-character moment, apologize! Ego must take a backseat if happiness is truly wanted.
It's gotten me this far (20 years)...it works!
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