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Can Friends Become A Foe?

  1. Venus Rivera profile image76
    Venus Riveraposted 3 years ago

    Can Friends Become A Foe?


  2. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    How two people treat one another determines the nature of their relationship. Life is a personal journey.
    Each of us gets to choose who we spend our time with. All relationships are "at will" and no one is "stuck" with anyone.
    Everyone has their own (criteria list) of what constitutes a friend, acquaintance, enemy, lover, or spouse and so on.

    1. Venus Rivera profile image76
      Venus Riveraposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Yes! it comes down to the way you treat someone & how someone treats you. The relationship will either grow or deteriorate. I agree with you, thank you for leaving your comment.

  3. lyndapringle profile image71
    lyndapringleposted 3 years ago

    Unequivocally yes!!  You can have the best read on a friend and she/he (in my case, she) can treat you like a princess throughout the course of a long friendship, put you on a pedestal where you can do no wrong.  However, friendship is easily maintained when it is not tested or when the friendship does not interfere with what is desperately important to one of the friends.

    At my last job, where I worked as a paralegal, I was the favorite of one of my bosses and was treated nicer than the other attorneys.  I never took advantage of this nor attempted to influence any personnel issues as a result.  My best friend at work was aware of the favoritism and, at the time, I thought she did not mind.  We were good friends to one another. I bonded and babysat her daughter and she always praised me to others.

    However, one day, when Carolyn bent over while wearing a mini skirt showing our boss her thong, my days of being favored was over.  She became the new favorite and reveled in it.  She saw me as a threat to his new relationship with her and made my life a misery by distributing very personal e-mails of mine that I had sent to her to people in the office, I suppose to undermine my credibility if I caused problems with her and Brian.  She told me blatant lies about gossip being said about me such as one very busy attorney compiling a dossier to get me fired.  This was just ridiculous.  This attorney was too swamped with work to do this.  Every e-mail I sent her was forwarded to my supervisors.  She finally told me that, she because of her friendship with Brian, she was in a good position to get to comply with all office directives.  I threw her out of the office, advising her I was afraid of no one.  She bad mouthed md to all my supervisors and co-workers and the rose had fallen off the bloom simply because she feared that this married boss, who could do nothing for either of us, continued to harbor any warmth toward me.  I resigned as a result of this mess. 

    To this day, this was the worse betrayal I suffered from a friend.  So, yes, friends can turn into foes.

    1. Venus Rivera profile image76
      Venus Riveraposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I understand what your saying completely. I had a similar experience at my job and I just left to avoid any conflicts. Thank you for sharing your story and as well your comments.

  4. askformore lm profile image73
    askformore lmposted 3 years ago

    Yes, but a real (true) friend is one who accepts that you yourself are a foe. And yet remain a friend.

    1. Venus Rivera profile image76
      Venus Riveraposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      A good friend is sometimes hard to find. Thank you for leaving your comment.

  5. m abdullah javed profile image78
    m abdullah javedposted 3 years ago

    There is a possiblity Venus. It all depends on the nature of their friendship. Actually animosity between the two requires diametrically opposite qualities compared to friendship. Therefore when friendship is characterized by factors like jealousy, poor communication, non-coperation then it slowly turns into an idle one or if there is aggression on any one side it will turn into enimity. Similarly when factors like broadmindedness, forgiveness, mutual cooperation prevails between the two enemies that will turn into a strong bond of friendship. So there are possibilities of friends becoming foe and foes becoming friends but it depends on the behavioral attitude of both.

    1. Venus Rivera profile image76
      Venus Riveraposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Very true thanks for sharing your input.

  6. peachpurple profile image82
    peachpurpleposted 3 years ago

    yes, friends can become foe when comes to competition, fierce one that either one has to survive

  7. sangre profile image95
    sangreposted 3 years ago

    Yes they can. It has happened to me and I have seen it happen to others. People who have been friends for years, suddenly end up behaving differently towards each other and all for personal gain.

    It's very distressing and upsetting. But it also makes you more thankful for those in your life like family and childhood friends who have stuck with you through it all.

  8. liesl5858 profile image83
    liesl5858posted 3 years ago

    Yes, I know a friend of mine who just turned her back on her friend of more than thirty years and the reason they are not friends anymore is because they just had a misunderstanding due to another friend. It is sad when this happens.

    1. Venus Rivera profile image76
      Venus Riveraposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Most definitely it's sad to see that happen but it's evidence that they can turn into a foe. Thank you for sharing your story and leaving your input.

  9. Abhinav4192 profile image59
    Abhinav4192posted 3 years ago

    Yes, give them a pile of money to divide between them and see the wonder happen.