Would you send someone a card on Valentine's Day if they haven't yet asked you f

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   Marcy Goodfleischposted 10 years ago

   Would you send someone a card on Valentine's Day if they haven't yet asked you for a date?
   
   What if you like someone but they may not know it yet?  What would you do?

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   It really would come down to the words or sentiment within the card.
   If the card was relatable to our circumstance/ a past conversational topic, or it tied into their sense of humor I'd see nothing wrong with it. This assumes there is at least a budding friendship.
   On the other hand if out of the blue you sent a card professing your love for someone you've never been out with that can come off as kind of "scary". A funny or humorous card is probably best.
   If the intent of giving them a Valentine's Day card is to show your "romantic interest" in someone I would find another way.
   If there is a (daytime) festival or some other casual upcoming event in your area you can simply just "invite" them to join you. "I was thinking about checking out blah blah this Saturday. Would you be interested in going for a couple of hours?" If the answer is "no" it's not a big deal as this was not a "date" and if the answer is yes you'll have a chance to see if there is any (real) chemistry between you.
   Either way the other person if they're interested in seeing you is likely to reciprocate by inviting you out. Things will evolve over time.

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   bravewarriorposted 10 years ago

   Date? What's that? Even when I was dating, per se, it seemed time was spent at my house or his.
   
   What's up with the older generation that they take the easy way out?

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      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      The older people become the less excited they are about going to crowded places, paying outrageous prices for mediocre service, fighting the traffic back and forth to the city if they live in the suburbs or rural area. Older people want to relax.

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   Dr Billy Kiddposted 10 years ago

   A text, maybe. A card, no.
   Actually, I didn't know people still did Valentine's cards.

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   Perspycaciousposted 10 years ago

   I would strike up a conversation and say "I'd like to take you out for a slice of pizza sometime, or don't you like pizza?"

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   connorjposted 10 years ago

   
   
   Yes indeed, every year I send a St. Valintine's Day card to three women, two of them are married!
   I profess my love so endlessly/significantly and indeed I never want them to date me. They are my brats; oops, I mean my daughters...

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   peachpurpleposted 10 years ago

   Try a friendly approach, don't let him or her scared

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   fpherj48posted 10 years ago

   Marcy.....Depending upon the current status of the current situations of these 2 individuals....for instance, if you have known one another casually for some time, exchanged conversation, interacted separately in the same events or functions.....then it seems to me you are familiar with one another enough, to have at least "taken notice" of one another.
   Within the scenario above or one similar, I think the contents of one's heart should take the lead.   It's clear the mere thought of sending a card has some sense of purpose.  I would follow it.
   It's only up to us to act upon our feelings and thoughts with sincerity.  We can't allow ourselves to wonder or predict the reaction of the receiver.  This is entirely their own personal choice.  (it could be that this person has some of the same feelings, but it also dealing with apprehension)
   The choice of the card should probably be selective in terms of the greeting.  You may want to choose a card with a kind and generic sort of expression like one you might send to any friend. This can only be defined as a kind, sweet gesture and give you no cause to be concerned.  On the other hand, it could open up the doors to further "interest" and allow HIM to make the next move.......and while it may not be immediate, it may be worth it...........    My belief has always been to follow my heart.  You can't go wrong with that, regardless of the outcome.  In any event, at least you will have made your subtle effort.....

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