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Who is best Love or Arrange marriage??

  1. Vikash Cse profile image63
    Vikash Cseposted 2 years ago

    Who is best Love or Arrange marriage??

  2. pippap profile image86
    pippapposted 2 years ago

    I believe there are pros and cons to both.  Statistics show that arranged marriages result in a lower rate than love matches.  However, local cultural values may encourage the couples in arranged marriages  to remain together more aggressively than the social mores of less strict societies.

    1. Vikash Cse profile image63
      Vikash Cseposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      a very Good answer..thank you

  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 2 years ago

    It's not how you meet but whom you meet that counts.
    Over the years I've learned of people who met each other varying circumstances. Sometimes it worked out and other times it didn't.
    There is no "guaranteed method" for marital success.
    I believe the top three reasons for divorce are:
    1. Getting married to the wrong person for oneself (Didn't invest time to figure out if this person had the traits you wanted for a life mate. Someone committed a "deal breaker" such as cheating/abuse, you have different values or expectations of marriage)
    2. Getting married for the wrong reasons (arbitrary age goal, unplanned pregnancy, an ultimatum was given, all your friends were married, future spouse has money, was just tired of being single)
    3. Gradually grew apart and no longer wanted the same things. (Over time stopped doing the things that won their mate's heart, neglect, taking for granted, allowed romance connection to die.)
    All three of the above scenarios could happen whether one married the person they loved or if it was under an arrangement.
    People stay together because (they) want to stay together.

  4. ChristinS profile image97
    ChristinSposted 2 years ago

    For me personally, free choice to marry who I choose would be the only way.  I do not understand the concept of arranged marriages in a modern world.  Who should be forced to be married to someone they don't know or love? Granted the notions of "romantic love" are not often very realistic either - or the divorce rates wouldn't be so high.  I think all forms of marriage have their misconceptions and struggles, but to be told I "have" to marry someone not of my choosing?  I don't think so!

    1. Vikash Cse profile image63
      Vikash Cseposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Wow.. Heart touching answer

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    peter565posted 2 years ago

    Neither are good, all women are "Angry yell machine with no off switch."