How long into a marriage will the passion stop?

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   MFPrincessposted 9 years ago

   How long into a marriage will the passion stop?
   
   You hear everyday of marriages breaking down because it lacks the intimacy and passion. When does this happen? Why does it happen? Is there a way to prevent from happening? I've been married for nearly 2 years and our fire is still soaring, and it's frightening to think one of these days it could stop.

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   Jojo Yousefposted 9 years ago

   I think understanding the language of dialog is the best way for the continuation of the marriage, without understanding happens separation

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      nochanceposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I find communication to be extremely important. Most couples I know who have broken up did not talk about their wants, needs, and expectations with the other.

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   chuckandus6posted 9 years ago

   I have been married for 10 years now. and the passion is stronger than ever.Don't believe because of statistics on some marriages that there is a point where things stop, just continue being in love and it Won't stop.my husband can still make me blush and giggle like the first date.

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      MFPrincessposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      awww that's lovely to know!! My husband still gives me butterflies and makes me smile everyday, we flirt all the time and still all over each other! I guess I should stop worrying and carry on doing what we are doing. Thank you for giving me hope

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      chuckandus6posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      No problem, we have been accused of being newlyweds when we have a date night without the kids. : )
      (We also have 4 children)

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      MFPrincessposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      WOW!!! that's amazing like dashingscorpio says many people lose the passion when kids come along, he's got 2 from previous so our nights are split, date night is every other night for us

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      chuckandus6posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      That's great we don't get out that much.but it sounds like u two are deeply in love.that's how we are that is awesome.:  )

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      MFPrincessposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      we are and I'm happy for you and your husband!
      
      p.s. date night isn't always us going out, it could be movie night in or drive down to the beach (2mins away) and watch the sun go down with a picnic

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      chuckandus6posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      That's always fun.time together alone is great .

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   dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago

   The passion can stop for various reasons.
   I believe the number one reason is one or both people in the marriage decide not to make it a Priority! There are basically three "To do lists"
   1. Things I have to do (If not, something bad is going to happen)
   2. Things I want to do (I do it because I LOVE it)
   3. Things I need to do (If I can find the time or ever get in the mood)
   Needless to say if whatever it is doesn't fall within the first two groups of our (priority list); odds are it will be put off over and over again.
   In some instances circumstances changes things. One person may be forced to work a different shift from their mate. They essentially become two ships passing in the night. Different wake and sleep schedules effect things.
   Another common energy drainer is having children. Oftentimes there is more stress in a household when couples have children. For some people stress kills the idea of romance. There are some women who actually prefer motherhood over being a wife and some men who look at their wives differently.
   "It's easier to maintain a fire than it is to reignite a spark!"
   Lack of creativity may bore one of you over time. Couples tend to "settle in" to having the same "go to moves" whenever they have sex. It may always be in the same room, around the same time, in the same position with the same foreplay steps leading up to it.
   "Monogamy becomes boring when couples become lazy."
   Last but not least physical and health changes may come into play. Maybe your mate gains a ton of weight or some other change that turns you off or vice versa. In other instances erectile dysfunction and menopause can have a dramatic effect on libido .

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      MFPrincessposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for giving me another insight. So to maintain the passion add excitement when things begin to become tedious? But passion isn't just sex, it's the kissing, hugging etc. Erectile dysfunction etc we've got many years to worry about  that lol

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   lisasuniquevoiceposted 9 years ago

   MFPrincess,
   It can stop at any time. As soon as your spouse does something to tick you off, it stops. The question really is, can you get it back before too much times goes by?
   Lisa

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   Ana Kolomekaposted 9 years ago

   According to my research, couples reach their sex life peak at 10 years, so you're just getting started.  My favorite high school teacher and her husband were still going strong at 39 years, but something happened as they approached their 40th anniversary.  I don't know what happened, but I believe it's something someone did, like a major financial mismanagement problem, that caused the fire to die out.  Still though, that's almost half a century.
   What I get from this is, as long as you two work at it and don't make any serious mistakes, it could last a lifetime.

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