Why will a Wife complain that his husband cares more about others than his immed

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   abbaelijahposted 9 years ago

   Why will a Wife complain that his husband cares more about others than his immediate family?
   
   Some wife say their husband and not caring and other not always at home

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   dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago

   "We treat the new better than the tried and true."
   Maybe these wives have observed similar kindness displayed by their husbands that is seldom if ever shown towards their wives and family.
   In the beginning when they met he may have treated her like royalty, wined and dined her, was loving and affectionate, bent over backwards to impress her and win her over but once she was emotionally invested he gradually {stopped} doing all of those things!
   Essentially lots of folks demonstrate  more kindness and consideration to those who are not as close to them as their own spouse and children.
   I observed this as a child when seeing how my own mother engaged with other children. She was far more patient with them, didn't yell or scream when they made mistakes and when she talked to them her voice had a joyful melody to it that was absent when she talked to me and my brothers.
   It's human nature to take things and people for granted until they're gone. Stop going to work you lose your job, stop paying your car note you lose your car and yet folks believe they can stop being loving towards their spouse and everything will remain the same!
   When we change our circumstances change.
   "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
   - Oscar Wilde

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      abbaelijahposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
      - Oscar Wilde
      
      Humm! I love that quote
      Thanks for the answer!

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   jansharesposted 9 years ago

   I hear this a lot in my counseling sessions with couples. The wife expresses feeling neglected because she doesn't feel like a priority in her husband's life. I actually think it can go both ways, depending on which spouse is more involved outside of the home. But I do hear it more from the wives. It is sometimes cultural when the man's commitment to his community extends outside of his immediate family to extended family, friends, and organizations. When he's loyal to those responsibilities, he tends to take for granted the wife's needs. She in turn may feel left out. This makes her question her husband's priorities and love for her.

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      abbaelijahposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for the answer!

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   Sparkleaposted 9 years ago

   I have learned from experience that I cannot ever change my husband.  He is who he is.  Complaining about his flaws accomplishes zero. 
   To answer your question, "WHY will a wife complain that her husband cares more about others than his immediate family?"  Because he probably does!
   I have been on this earth long enough to observe other families as well as my own. 
   My sister ended her marriage because her husband's daughter from a previous marriage (he was a widow) treated her dad like her boyfriend and treated my sister terrible.  Her husband ALWAYS stuck up for the daughter.
   Then there is another family member whose boyfriend cared more about going out and drinking with his friends than being with his girl friend.
   In both cases the females COMPLAINED, fought, begged, tried to reason---in which all failed.
   I have learned there is no 'fix' to this problem.  Either the woman has to tolerate it or end it.
   UNLESS the husband finally understands the problem and makes a great effort to show more attention to his wife/girlfriend. 
   Relationships today have become so very complicated.  A lot of brouhaha with families, in-laws, siblings, ex-wives, previous girl friends.  I could go on and on.
   All of the above is just my personal opinion.  blessings, Sparklea:)

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      abbaelijahposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks

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      dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      "I have learned there is no 'fix' to this problem. Either the woman has to tolerate it or end it." - Very true!
      Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.
      People only change when (they) are unhappy.
      Accept them as is or move on,

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