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Is it wrong for a traditional girl to ask a guy for marriage?

  1. profile image60
    May Esaposted 2 years ago

    Is it wrong for a traditional girl to ask a guy for marriage?


  2. word55 profile image74
    word55posted 2 years ago

    Yes, a guy already has the desire to conquer as many women as he can. He may not end that desire even after marriage unless he has already played the field of conquering so many women. Unfortunately, men among men are respected most when they are known to have played so many or conquered so many women and therefore, a woman should not ask a man for marriage. She should stipulate that she will not give herself to him unless he marries her. But if she asks then after a while he'll have a tendency to dog her. A man needs for her to be a challenge and respectability for him to achieve and appreciate. Otherwise, he'll have a tendency to take her for granted. A man's greatest challenge should be to love a woman with all of his heart because that is what it takes to please her.

    1. vink21778 profile image73
      vink21778posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Every finger of the hand is not equal.You cannot generalize the particular thought.

    2. dashingscorpio profile image86
      dashingscorpioposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      "She should stipulate that she will not give herself to him unless he marries her." Isn't that the same as a marriage proposal only using force?  or quid pro quo? Loving someone shouldn't be a "challenge". If it is they're not "the one". smile

  3. Tusitala Tom profile image62
    Tusitala Tomposted 2 years ago

    I'd say there's some 'crossing of a line here.  Actually, it looks like double lines and in this country it means you shouldn't cross them.   Watch out for overtaking traffic...

    Love the picture!   But surely the girl doesn't really need to get on her knees.

    Seriously, I think though it has been traditional for a girl to wait to be asked, I see no reason whatsoever why a woman can't do the asking.   Imagine if she didn't and the guy was shy and never got around to it for fear of rejection.   Of course a woman can and should, if she feels like it, ask a man to marry her.

  4. peachpurple profile image82
    peachpurpleposted 2 years ago

    is it wrong? In this new era, everything is possible, it is not wrong for a traditional girl to ask for a guy for marriage if she loves him that much

  5. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 2 years ago


    Of course it's not "wrong" to ask the person you love to spend the rest of their life with you. It's almost 2016!
    Generally speaking people don't propose unless they have been in a committed and mutual loving relationship. In fact there are usually discussions about getting married long before there is a proposal.
    Rarely does anyone propose unsure if their mate wants to marry them. What's the worse thing that can happen? They say: "No".
    That would not be "the end of the world" but rather inform you that he/she is not "the one" for you. In order for them to be "the one" they would have to see (you) as being "the one".
    At the very least a "soul-mate" is someone who actually wants to be with you! (And vice versa). One old adage goes:
    "If it's not worth asking for then it's not worth having"
    Some women are {scared of rejection} and others are worried about how it may make them look. (pride/ego): I would assume they're not proposing to just any guy off the street! If a man has professed his love for her and they've been in a long-term relationship then she should feel comfortable enough to propose. And yet some women would rather mutter under their breath (waiting) for some day.
    Many of these women have no problem giving a man an "ultimatum"!
    The reality is (an ultimatum is a marriage proposal of sorts). Essentially you're threatening to leave someone unless they propose. In my opinion "twisting someone's arm" to get them to propose is worse than making a proposal.
    All marriages will have their share of challenges but at the very least they should start off with (both people wanting) to get married!
    If in the end there is a happily married couple no one is going to care about who proposed to whom. One man's opinion!smile