What were the biggest adjustments you had to make when you got married?

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  1. kbdressman profile image94
    kbdressmanposted 2 years ago

    What were the biggest adjustments you had to make when you got married?

  2. FatFreddysCat profile image97
    FatFreddysCatposted 2 years ago

    Falling asleep with the TV on. My wife has had that habit since she was a little girl, but I never did. It took a little while to learn how to tune it out and fall asleep.

    1. kbdressman profile image94
      kbdressmanposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      I don't know I would have been able to adjust to that! I had to convince my husband he couldn't sleep with his legs together to his knees and then his knees bent at 90 degrees so I had room in the bed.  It took us a while to change that habit!

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    Cissy1946posted 2 years ago

    That is quite a question! I had lived alone my whole adult life and was very used to coming and going as I pleased. After getting married at 46 I realized, the first time I wanted to go to a movie, that I couldn't just walk out the door and go anymore, I had to ask if he wanted to come too. Then the inevitable conversation began...

    "What are you going to see?"
    "Pure Luck"
    "What's it about?"
    "I don't know, I haven't seen it."
    "What else is playing?"
    "I don't know, that's the one I want to see."
    "Let's look and see if there's something else."
    "You know you don't have to come with me."
    "But I like going to the movies too and I want to go with you."
    After 15 minutes of going through the movie section...
    "I've changed my mind. I don't want to go to a movie."
    "I wish you had decided that before I spent all this time looking for a movie."

    This sort of conversation holds true for eating out, taking a vacation, shopping, going anywhere on the weekends, and every other thing that was previously just a matter of picking up my keys and walking out the door. However, I did love my husband and enjoyed being married to him very much. I was devastated when he died.

    1. kbdressman profile image94
      kbdressmanposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      I'm so sorry to hear about his passing.  That's a hard loss and life adjustment.

      I relate to feeling like we discuss simple things to death and it's suddenly much more complicated to just "get up and go!"

  4. Happylovejoy profile image96
    Happylovejoyposted 2 years ago

    My three main big adjustments:

    1) That I had a lot less personal time.
    2) Had to make sure my other half is occupied or well fed if I am going out.
    3) Had to endure someone nagging at some of my habits.

    Disclaimer: I do love my spouse very much so 'just saying'.

    1. kbdressman profile image94
      kbdressmanposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      I'm afraid I'm the nagger in my marriage.  My husband's incredibly patient, self-sufficient and hard to annoy.  It's interesting to hear other people's experiences!  Thanks for sharing!

  5. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 2 years ago

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    Because we already lived together there were no big adjustments.
    Having said that I do believe when two people move in together or get married whatever they "imagined" their life would be like turns out to be different in many ways.
    (Different sleep patterns, a need for alone time, finding yourself watching TV in different rooms because you like different programs, having different meals or at different times because you don't eat the same type of food or your schedules during the week don't often coincide...etc)
    When you're simply dating you actually (plan to be together) or participate in activities {one on one} most of the time you meet up.
    You're each other's "top priority" whenever you are together!
    You realize they have (a life outside of you) but you don't "see it".
    When you're living together or married you actually (witness) your mate's individual activities and interests apart from your own.
    You're also more privy to interactions with their friends and family.

    1. kbdressman profile image94
      kbdressmanposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      Oh I relate to so much of this! Adjusting to my husband's family and their family culture was probably the biggest challenge we've had.  There are the little differences in sleeping and eating and such, but the most stressful was his family culture!

 
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