If prostitution was legalized in the U.S: Do you believe it would lead to higher

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   dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago

   If prostitution was legalized in the U.S: Do you believe it would lead to higher infidelity rates?
   
   According to "statistics" cheating and infidelity are at an all time high for both men and women in marriages. Aside from the religious and moral beliefs about those who engage in prostitution do you believe one of the "hidden motives" for making it illegal is to help preserve the sanctity of marriage and courtship in our society? For decades some folks have argued legalizing and taxing prostitution would eliminate a lot of the criminal element. If prostitution was legalized would it effect (your) lifestyle choices? or Are you more concerned about the lifestyle choices of others?
   
   

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      Ikoro Iyineledaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Are dowries legal in the US?
      
      Is alimony legal in the US?
      
      If the answers to both questions are positive, then I believe prostitution is already legal in the US.
      
      Common sense......not so common.

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         dashingscorpioposted 6 years agoin reply to this

         Ikoro,
         Since you believe it's already legal; Do you believe it has led to higher incidences of infidelity?

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            Ikoro Iyineledaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

            Definitely not. And it would probably lead to lower incidences of infidelity, were the legalisation with no hypocrisy.
            
            Note: probably. But most definitely VERY probably.

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         mike102771posted 6 years agoin reply to this

         Marriage is not prostitution. There is nothing in a marriage license that says your partner has to have sex with you. Alimony is based on the support the partner took a vow to provide not for services rendered, and dowries are typically used in arranged marriages, not as payment for having sex with their children (the one they are trying to get married). Pimps don’t pay the Johns to sleep with the prostitutes (that would be a bad business model).

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            Ikoro Iyineledaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

            Marriage IS prostitution.
            
            "Do not refuse one another except perhaps by agreement for a season, that you may devote yourself to prayer; BUT THEN COME TOGETHER AGAIN, lest Satan tempt you through lack of control."
            
            Those are the words from which thy legal statutes arose.
            
            AND, if a man has to pay alimony for having sought a means via which he fall not to temptation, which common sense would thou believe he paid not alimony for having sought the services of a prostitute that just happens to now hold him in disdain?
            
            I will answer my question. The same sort of common sense that would thou believe that (despite the only means via which a man can attract a woman being either through the prosperity risen out of power, or through the power itself) there can be absolutely any difference whatsoever between the woman thou keeps in thy home - with thy money, and the woman thou visits in red light districts - for the very same reason.
            
            The only difference, as far as I'm concerned, is that one is a whole lot more honest than the other.

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               mike102771posted 6 years agoin reply to this

               You can quote all the dusty old books all you want, in the eyes of the law (at least in the US) you have no right to sex from your spouse. In a very basic sense (here in the US) marriage is a contract a sort of unlimited liability partnership. No one with common sense marries just to have sex. You also don’t pay alimony for sex.
               
               MARRIAGE IS NOT JUST FOR SEX.
               
               
               
               
               Now go tell your mother you think there is no difference between a wife and a whore.

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                  Ikoro Iyineledaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

                  Pele. Ode. There's a difference.....one is much more honest than the other.
                  
                  And, for the so-called Christians.......how many wives were following Jesus around when he was on earth?
                  
                  I can think of at least one prostitute.
                  
                  I believe that should confirm my answer.

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   jlparkposted 9 years ago

   No I don't think it would - if they are going to be unfaithful with a prostitute, it's not likely to matter whether it's legal or not.
   
   It is already legal in my country and have been for a number of years. Has infidelity increased? I don't think so.
   But have the working conditions for the girls gotten better? Yes.
   They now pay taxes, but are also afforded more health benefits, more rights as 'service providers' (eg legal right to decline a customer service if they need to), can insist on protection being used etc.
   
   It's hardly a blip on our radar anymore - unless they are underage - then the police get involved.
   
   I'm not concerned about the choices others make for themselves (and I know a couple of people who are paid for sex for a living).
   
   If it concerns you and it's not your daughter being the prostitute, or yr husband doing the cheating - you need to ask yourself why you care so much about what others do?
   
   If it's yr husband, something in ones marriage may need looking at if he is wanting to stray. If it's your daughter....talk to her, find out her reasons for doing it - and if it's to fund a habit (as it is for some women), then get her the help she needs.
   
   (My acquaintances who do this do not use it to fund a drug habit, but more to help fund their child's education etc)

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      dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      It's always interesting to see how other countries handle the legalization of things the U.S. population fears. Some folks might "try it"  if it's legal. However smoking cigarettes is legal but I've never had the desire to become a smoker.

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   bradmasterOCcalposted 9 years ago

   By definition, legalizing prostitution would decrease crime. I don't think that it would increase the use of prostitutes, as they are probably very busy now. Maybe, amateurs might come into the game, sort of like when there is a real estate boom, the real estate people increase in numbers.
   
   Another parallel would be legalizing gambling, it really didn't change gamblers, it just let in some novices.
   
   But then there will be equilibrium in all those activities.
   
   With a divorce rate of 50% what does infidelity mean today?
   
   The moral compass of the country is pretty much gone.

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      dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Excellent point regarding "amateurs". I never thought about there being people who'd jump into it to make some quick cash or as a "lark" now and then.
      My guess is there'd also be some young guys (tricks) looking to lose their virginity too.

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      ptosisposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I can think of less disgusting ways to have a 'lark'

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      bradmasterOCcalposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Dashingscorpio
      It seems that there are still some people that are afraid of the law, so they stay within the lines.??

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      dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      ptosis , "Disgusting" is in the eye of the beholder! LOL!
      bradmasterOCcal, You're right.  The law does keep many people in check.

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   Say Yes To Lifeposted 9 years ago

   In order to really know that, you need to take a good look at the marriage statistics in countries that legalize prostitution.  Since most European countries have lower divorce rates, my guess is it wouldn't be adversely affected.  Someone who is hell-bent on cheating doesn't need a prostitute to do it.

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      dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Excellent point.
      If one wants to cheat they will. Some might argue being able to legally order a prostitute like a pizza might make it too easy to cheat. Cheaters are caught due to maintaining an affair not "one & done" with "silent" NSA mates.

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   ptosisposted 9 years ago

   
   
   It's been legal for decades in Nevada, except withing the city limits of  Reno and Lost Wages.  Can go to the local state employment office to get a job at brothel where have to stay for two weeks without leaving, pay rent, pay the taxi driver's bar bill and the taxi  ride itself roundtrip. The IRS found out when they raided the Mustang Ranch that they were not employees but contractors.
   
   Nevada is famous for very easy divorces but have to prove you live there for more than 6 weeks and not for the sole purpose of getting a divorce or the entire country would go there for a cheap divorce! One couple married and divorced each other 6 times - I think infidelity was the least of their problems.

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      dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I imagine most people who are into legalizing it would prefer not to have to drive an hour or so out of Las Vegas or Reno. In fact you can't walk down Las Vegas Blvd without being handed escort flyers! LOL!

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   Link10103posted 9 years ago

   Doubt it. Once you take the taboo out of something, you're almost guaranteed to see an immediate drop.
   
   I view the people against legalizing prostitution the same as those that rant and rave against gay marriage: repressed idiots.
   
   Prostitution is the world's oldest profession...you literally can't stop it. Might as well make it safer and make some profits.

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      dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      My guess is the "going rate" would also have a major impact.
      Anything under $100 would likely increase the amount of folks willing to try it. I suspect some folks see making it legal as "throwing in the towel".

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   peter565posted 9 years ago

   Different country have different policy on prostitution. Personally I don't have a problem with prostitution, although even if it is legal, I won't visit the sex industry, simply because I find it immoral.
   
   Having say, that, although I believe it is alright, for prostitution to be legal, I do believe it need to be regulated. Firstly, I believe women who practice prostitution must have a licence that need to renew once per year, to get your licence renew, you must have firstly, a doctor certificate, proving you have no sexual transmitting disease and secondly, sign off by police and the city government, this is to make sure, women who choose to get into the industry, is doing it out of her own free will and is not a sex slave and her free will is not be effected, by goons, If a girl want to practice prostitution in another city, she must gain another licence from that city, which also include, signing off from the police and government of that city or town.
   
   To further ensure women who practice prostitution is not sex slave are not been taken advantage of brothel and pimps must also have a pimp licence or brothel license. This licence need to be renew every year, every girl that work for this brothel or pimp must be register under this licence and the pimp and brothel can only use girls register under them and have a valid prostitution licence.
   
   To further, ensure, these license would ensure, girls who work in this industry are not sex slaves, is doing it out of their own free will and their free will is not be effected and is not been taken advantage of by the brothel or pimp or by goons and the girls are not spreading sexual transmitted disease, If a girl is caught practicing prostitution without a valid licence or if a man sleep with a girl practicing prostitution without a valid license, he/she can be fine up to 50000 US dollar or a number of hours of community service. For repeat offenders, you can serve up to maximum 1 year in prison.
   
   People who is a pimp or run a brothel without a valid license, have a girl not register or not having a valid license working under the pimp or brothel, the pimp or the people responsible for the brothel can be fine up to 50000 dollar and could serve up to 10 years in prison.

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      dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      peter565, It almost sounds like want the job of commissioner!

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      peter565posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Exception of high class call girls, human trafficking, girls abused by pimps, sexual transmitted disease is a problem in sex industry. Legalizing it, with regulation, help deal with these problem and crack down on human trafficking and decrease rape.

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   Annsaloposted 9 years ago

   My personal opinion of prostitution is I hate the concept. I think of it similar to how some think of welfare for people who refuse to work. It encourages people not to work towards either fixing their current relationship to get what they need for it, or it encourages people not to at least do the leg work towards finding a one night stand. It really takes all effort out of finding a mate, which I personally find a bit like a lazy way out.
   With that said, even though I can't stand the concept, I DO support the legalization of it. I support regulations, taxing, health care options, and the ladies (maybe men) being treated like employees.
   Legalization wouldn't have any impact on infidelity. People who want to cheat will. After seeing Jacqui say that it was legal in her country I went to her profile and she says she is in New Zealand. So I went to check out the divorce rates there. Seems they are quite low.
   Legal or not, it will have no impact on my relationship.

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      dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Excellent points.
      Aside from being a "lazy approach" There's those who also prefer a variety of "no strings attached" liaisons with discreet "professionals" and guys considered "unattractive" can be w/"hot" one$ they'd never get for free. LOL!

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   Sparkleaposted 9 years ago

   To start with, I loathe prostitution.
   I was raised by my grandparents who taught me modesty.
   They also taught me it was good to wait until marriage to have sexual relationships.
   I have NO idea how people can meet as strangers in a seedy hotel room, take off their clothes and do the things people do sexually with NO REMORSE, GUILT, OR CONSCIENCE.  And get paid for it!
   The Bible clearly states, "Flee fornication."  Fornication is defined as having sex outside of marriage.
   God did that for our protection.  After all God created sex, so sex is really a good thing, but meant for people who fall in love and get married.  The Bible states, "marriage is honorable and the bed undefiled." 
   If people adhered to the Biblical truths, we would not have abortions, STDs , AIDS, and all kinds of sexual diseases.  Not to mention emotional damage from infidelity and rape.
   Charlie Sheen brags he has had sex with over 1000 women.  SERIOUSLY?
   All I know is that I have had sex with two people in my life time: my first husband who committed adultery with another woman and left me for her; and my second husband.  Today we celebrate our 42nd wedding anniversary.
   To answer your question, I don't think legalizing prostitution would make a lick of difference.  Infidelity is rampant whether or not it is legal. 
   Today men and women run into each other at a bar and have sex an hour later, never to be seen or heard from again.  They call it 'hooking up.'  Or 'hanging out.' 
   Today sex is a sport - done with no conscience.
   A person I know quite well allows her son to be naked every day running around.  Modesty is not taught to children nor are they taught to respect their own bodies.
   It really makes me sick to think about it because sex is so very wonderful, but terribly misused in this day and age. 
   And there are always consequences.  How many spouses are heartbroken as a result of infidelity?  Millions. 
   I know I can't control it but I guess I do complain about it at times because I hate to see how bodies are misused.  Don't even start me on the restaurant in London that is opening a NUDE restaurant and has over 25,000 reservations so far and it has not even opened yet.
   Thank you for this question. You have some great answers here.
   Blessings, Sparklea

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      dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I suppose not all transactions take place in seedy hotels. Most likely there are also "high end" escort services for the rich.
      Regarding sexuality of today I believe the 60s era of "free love", the pill, & feminist movement had a large impact.

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      Sparkleaposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      You are correct, I forgot about the escort services.  I agree with you about the 60's era also.  Thanks for your note I really appreciate it.

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    Readmikenowposted 9 years ago

    Prostitution has been around for thousands of years.  It will never go away.  The real question is...will it cause more infidelity with modern people?  Probably not more than it has for thousands of years.

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       dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       So you're essentially saying if it were legal there would be no "additional" men in marriages or relationships who would use their services than those who already do.
       The laws aren't keeping some {other men} from partaking?

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       Readmikenowposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       dashingscorpio....I'm saying anything about prostitution being legal.  It's also been illegal for thousands of years. I believe if a man is going to see a prostitute while in relationship, he's the type of man who would see other women for free.

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    threekeysposted 9 years ago

    Legalizing prostitution would mean the workers are kept safe healthy and potentially violence free and treated more respectfully. And I am all for that!
    
    Would legalizing prostitution increase infidelity? I don't know but I don't think so.
    
    I think legalizing sex workers would improve the lives of those sex work seekers. Like people who have disabilities, people who feel not attractive enough to attract a decent partner and also those that may have separated in their relationship but not completely broken up.
    
    
    I think it would help in reducing the slave sex trade too.

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       dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Excellent points!

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    Sharlee01posted 9 years ago

    I believe  infidelity rates would go up, plus divorce rates, and STD's too ...

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       Link10103posted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Why do you think so?

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       dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Divorce rates higher than the 50% rate now?
       According to New Zealand where prostitution is legal the divorce rate is 42%. Maybe it's harder to catch cheaters having "no strings sex" by appointment.
       There might be a decline in marriages period.

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       Sharlee01posted 9 years agoin reply to this

       I think without the fear of breaking the law more men will seek out pro's  Plus fantasy sex that one's mate may not subscribe too, could have men seeking "pay for play".Women in the USA are not as open minded to husbands having sex outside marriage.

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       Annsaloposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       STD's would go down since prostitutes could then demand protection and have better access to health care.

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       Sharlee01posted 9 years agoin reply to this

       This could be true. I know in Amsterdam STD's are not a problem. I guess it would depend on state legislation that prostitutes would be responsible for using good protection to prevent STD's, and have good knowledge of how to prevent STD's.

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       dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Sharon you make an excellent point. If it weren't against the law there might be more men willing to turn to prostitutes especially if their wives aren't open to whatever it is they want. You're also right about U.S. wives not giving it their ok

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       PeterStipposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       On the contrary. STD would go down because the prostituates will be checked regularly. Divorce has nothing to do with it either infidelity. I think more men cheat on the work floor then in a whorehouse.

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    mike102771posted 9 years ago

    I would have to say no, yes, and no.
    
    No. cheating (in a way) is like stealing. For most it’s not the legality of it, but whether he or she can get away with it.
    
    Yes. Many people don’t see sex as cheating (stay with me on this). To them infidelity is having a long (or short) term relationship with another person and sex or other sex acts are not the same thing (“I did not have sex with that woman” President W.J. Clinton). By making a sex as simple as buying a burger (I was hungry when I typed this) we take the meaning away from it. And when I say (type) meaning I mean how sex or intimacy fits in context to a relationship.
    
    No. Marriage is not what it used to be nor was it ever. Ever since we made the horrible mistake in allowing women to vote or the ERA thing to go on (yes I am Joking) marriage went from owning (or dominating) women to partnering with them. Picture June Cleaver going to work telling Ward that he will need to do his share around the house. A good partnership is rarely 50/50. People need to play to their strengths as well as doing those things they do not like to do. Life is not all sunshine and lollypops. Diapers need to be changed, dishes washed, bills paid and other things that people fight over. Then add the stereotypes common in western culture such as cleaning being “women’s work” or the man as the bread earning, household heading bacon deliverer. On top of that we also live in a time that can best be described as the “do whatever makes you feel good” era or the “selfie Era.”   Now you may be asking yourself what does this have to do with hookers? Hookers, really why so judgmental?
    My point is that (for many) the meaning and functions of relationships are changing (this includes the meaning of marriage, sex and their connections).  While legal prostitution will make it easier to find a quick hookup the reality is that to paraphrase a popular singer a cheater is gonna cheat and the only justification he or she will need is the belief that he or she can get away with it. A mindless hookup a person makes in a bar or online becomes a mindless hookup with a prostitute.
    
    On a side note imagine the guidance counselor’s office in any local high school. On his or her desk are pamphlets on Medical School, Certified Public Accountant, Teacher, Pimping and Whoring.
    
    I wonder if this is an answer?

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    AshtonFireflyposted 9 years ago

    Laws have never really been that successful at keeping people from doing ultimately what they want to do. I don't think it would lead to higher infidelity rates. Unhappy people in unhappy marriages don't really need prostitutes to turn to. I also think the statistics reflect a change in what people perceive to be "cheating."

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    PeterStipposted 9 years ago

    To legalise prostitution has a lot of advantages but I do not think stop cheating is one of them. By the way woman cheat too.
    To legalise prostitution will lower crime. The girls will be better protected by law. It's easier to find out if the girls are adult, there nationality, they have to be legal citizens to pay tax. It will minimalist slavery and human traffic. The woman will be in a better healthy condition. They can form a union to protect there own rights as a prostitute.
    Drug prostitutes and normal prostitutes will be separated. When something is legalised there will be more controll, the police will know better what is going on in the whore houses.
    I've lived for a long time in Amsterdam and legalisation on prostitutes makes the whole business less criminal. Less girls will be forced to do the work.
    Same thing I would advocate for drugs but that's a different topic.

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    tamarawilhiteposted 9 years ago

    Given the relative ease of cheating already outside of prostitution, I don't think this will make a difference.
    When sex robots go mainstream, this won't even be a thing - but men cheating on women with them will be common.

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       dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Tamara, It's appears you have a fan! LOL!

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       tamarawilhiteposted 8 years agoin reply to this

       I meant the physical robots. I know the chatbots already exist.

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